Feelings of Guilt

Same. I think we won't have to postpone for September 2020. But I feel guilty about being excited and happy about my wedding. I have been looking forward to it since we picked the date in February of 2019. My shower is supposed to be in June, but we are waiting it out to see if that will be possible. Otherwise will postpone it to August.

I think we are lucky in the fact that everyone on our guest list all works in an "essential" industry, so none of us have had to feel what so many others are going through. We're getting excited for our upcoming wedding date and we're planning everything we possibly can while the world is basically shut down.

Yes! I feel really guilty right now. My FH's cousin had to cancel their wedding for April 25th and I hate when people bring up our wedding in front of them. We had a zoom Easter call on Sunday and everyone was asking me about how planning is going and I just wanted to stop talking about it in front of them. I feel like I can't fully enjoy the planning process and I'm bummed about that because I really wanted to savor this time being engaged.

I just wanted to say reading this was so nice. Our wedding is supposed to be May 30th and looking highly unlikely. We are heartbroken and at a loss of what to do. I'm really hoping this passes and we can all move on with our lives and weddings soon.

I feel guilty about postponing or canceling our wedding because of how much our families were excited for it. Obviously we need to keep them safe, but its just a really hard time to enjoy weddings or wedding things right now.

I can relate *kind of*... I was lucky enough to get married before the covid situation so that wasn't a factor in my feeling guilty, but I definitely felt the money-guilt for basically our entire engagement. I had several meltdowns where I considered cancelling and eloping because I just couldn't justify spending all the money (I was seriously considering cancelling even like 4 months before the wedding and my MOH talked me out of it) and I swear I was having second thoughts about "is it REALLY worth all this money" up until the week of the wedding. The answer (in my opinion) ended up being YES. Truly, it is the most absurdly extravagant day of your entire life. But honestly, when we were living in it, none of it really felt like an unreasonable extravagance.

Perhaps that was the way I allocated my budget though. We had a lovely venue so we didn't spend any money on decor other than a few picture frame signs (which we now reuse to hang wedding photos), not even centerpieces--our venue just provided the numbers and some candles. We used a spotify playlist instead of a DJ. The only florals were my bouquet (done by a florist) and DIY bridesmaid bouquets. We did spend a pretty penny on the wedding, but I'd say easily 75% of the money spent was on the venue, food, and drinks. So I say it really didn't feel like an extravagance because most of what the money went towards was having our friends and family there to celebrate us, and to treat them to food and a good time. Realistically, you'll never have another opportunity to have ALL those people you love in the same room at the same time. The memories we created and the magical feeling of getting married to the love of my life and being surrounded by so many people we love from all parts of our lives was just completely indescribable.

Like I said, of course I can't fully relate because I did get married before covid. I can't even imagine how you feel with all this going on, and I am heartbroken for all the brides who have had to cancel or postpone. However, I don't think you should feel guilty at all for continuing to plan your wedding or for being excited about it. I think now more than ever, it is important to make time to spend with your loved ones. I think it will be a wonderful celebration for your family and friends to look forward to. And for YOU to look forward to. You deserve your wedding. You deserve the "extravagance" of being surrounded by your loved ones, and to make memories that you'll have for the rest of your life. Those things are priceless!!

You shouldn't feel guilty about the good times in your life just because there are bad times too. As long as you're not putting anyone else's safety at risk, you should enjoy the beautiful moments.