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Feeling unmotivated

Pang, on May 30, 2020 at 9:06 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 3

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My wedding was postponed to October from May. We have all of our vendors booked and ready. All I have left is the fine details like decorations. I have been feeling unmotivated the last few months and have not been feeling much about anything wedding related. I'm almost don't care anymore. I don't want to spend any more money or time towards the wedding. It's not exciting anymore.

I originally wanted to do a tree planting unity ceremony. Now I rather it just be over quick.

Does anyone have any advice to help my mood?

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Latest activity by Breann, on June 5, 2020 at 3:18 PM

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RaylaSan · on May 30, 2020 at 10:51 AM
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If you need a break from planning your wedding, take a break, that's perfectly fine. What I would honestly do in this situation is do something fun with your spouse to be, like, photographs. Regardless of whether or not you took your engagement pictures yet, what I did before I even started wedding planning was have a photoshoot with my spouse to be. It was a lot of fun and it was nice dressing up nicer than we usually do, and having our pictures taken, actually doing this, really reinvigorsted my passion for my wedding!
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Sexypoodle · on May 30, 2020 at 1:53 PM
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Well luckily your planning is done. So it’s great to relax and have breaks, because wedding planning shouldn’t be a daily task or thought anyway. I think the idea that it has to be 24/7 excitement is a bit misleading for brides. So the pause you’re experiencing is fine and healthy. Our wedding is also in October and, like you, everything is booked and planned. So it’s been nice not having to do anything wedding-related during this time. I still need to order our invitations and I’ve been casually looking into custom wedding masks and personalized mini hand sanitizers for guests (and I hop on this app a bit). But the rest of my time and life is wedding-free right now and it’s great. I’ll pick up again in July or August to tighten all details. But, for now, there’s no need for me to force wedding planning where there is none to do.
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Breann · on June 5, 2020 at 3:18 PM
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No worries, same thing happened to me. I got engaged in December, planned/obsessed/ordered almost everything by February, and now am checking off the days until the wedding even though there are things left to do and I have < 3 weeks to go. My creativity hits in bursts and when it does, it hits HARD. I wear myself out and lose interest for a few months and then it'll pick back up again. Don't feel guilty.
Part of it could be the realization that there are SO many little things you could spend your money/time on, but really, as long as you get to marry the person you love, the rest is just little stuff. That's how my thought process has evolved as I've been wedding planning.
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