Feeling the stress

I ran into a funk and literally stopped at wedding planning for a month aha. I just felt like a break was what I needed to remind myself about self care and other things in my life.


With that being said, you can make your wedding simpler. E.g. I realized a lot of details we stress over are details we want. Our guests may never even notice some things we plan.

I agree with the above.

I would set aside 1 day with a calendar and set up a weekend/few days to get the rest of your vendors. Lots of places may already have your day booked so the sooner the better - it would probably also help so your focus can go back to school! Good luck! I'm in the same boat with you though!

I planned all of my major vendors within the first month of being engaged because I wanted to make sure that I found the vendors I wanted. My husband wasn't that involved in planning. I think it is a guy thing. My suggestion would be to make a list of what all you need to do and handle each item on the list one at a time. Wedding Wire and The Knot both have checklists. I used a photographer my friend used so that was the easiest vendor for me to book. Our venue also had a recommended vendor list which is how I found my DJ. You could talk to friends, family or venue to see if they recommend anyone. Do you have friends or family that would be willing to help you research vendors? If I knew where you were looking, I could look up some vendors to recommend to you.

I have to bait my fiance into even listening to my ideas. The good news is I get to pick pretty much what I want. The bad news is I hate planning things alone. I've found that venting on here helps a lot. Other brides know your pains and will give you advice instead of nodding their heads every so often,lol.

Most guys don’t want to be involved in the details so don’t get discouraged by that. As far as getting the rest of your vendors take a day and just do it. Wedding wire was super helpful for me to find mine because we did a DW so we didn’t know anyone in the area. Read lots of reviews and then call a few. I planned my entire wedding (only 55 people) in 10 weeks by myself so you can do it. Skip a bunch of the little things that people don’t care about like favors, programs, menus, etc if you don’t have time or the budget. Focus on the big things like food, music and photography. You can do it!! Good luck.

Definitely just allow yourself to to take a break! Multiple times I've taken a 1 - 2 week break just to allow myself to breathe and not focus on the wedding so much

After I take a breather I can come back to wedding planning with a clean slate and get some stuff done!

View Quoted Comment I agree take a little break and then come back. For me I like to find inspiration to help motivate me

I get men not wanting to be involved, but if he sees that you are stressed and is doing nothing to help for your wedding (it is his day just as much as yours), that isn't cool at all. It shouldn't matter if he doesn't wish to participate, this day is for both of you. My FH is very hands off and is letting me run the planning, but if I need help or want his input, he helps.

I do agree that taking a small break can really help! Good luck you're almost there!

I get married the week after you. I still need an officiant, dj, and photo booth. Other unnecessary minor stuff too but it'll all fall into place. I needed the time off for the holidays.