Feeling Stressed!-wedding Alternatives

Hey FAMUly - Don't be stressed. Are you trying to proceed as planned or switching to a virtual wedding? I think the two conversations are different. If you want to proceed as planned, let people know that you are proceeding as planned for now but that you and your fiance are carefully monitoring the situation to ensure that you can make any necessary changes to ensure your loved one's health and safety are not put at risk. If someone says they are not comfortable attending, just let them know that while you'll miss them, you certainly understand and respect their decision.

If you are moving to a virtual wedding, you simply let them know that given the current circumstances and your concern for the health and safety of your loved ones, you have made the difficult decision to change your wedding to a small, intimate ceremony with a limited number of guests, but that you would still like them to join in on the celebration through Zoom or whatever platform you decide to use.

Everyone is living in this alternate universe right now. I think people will understand either way.

I understand, and that makes sense. I'll tell you like someone told me . . . it's your wedding and one of very few times you can be selfish. And, you won't be able to please everyone. Now, I know you won't be anyone in danger, but do what works best for you given the circumstances. What will you be able to live with or look back on without regret? Don't make a decision based on what you think other people expect. I'm getting married in New Orleans in January, so I've heard it too. In fact, my future mother in law, whom I love, wants us to move the wedding to Tallahassee (which is my hometown). NOPE!! NOLA or bust! Now, I am revisiting and reducing our anticipated guest count and making other changes (like changing from buffet to plated, cutting the number of people per table, changing the ceremony layout to account for more space between people, etc.) to make sure we are being as reasonable as possible given the circumstances.