Feeling Selfish..

You are not being selfish. You have your priorities in order and, unlike many brides/grooms, understand that the marriage is more important than the wedding. I would honestly tell your FH that if a big wedding is what he wants, then he needs to take the lead in planning.

I hear you!
My FMIL is exactly the same (when she shows any interest in the wedding that is)
FH has been married before so I feel like they don't care as much this time around because it's not his first...but it is mine and I want it to be special for him and I...not FMIL...I plan on asking her to come to look at wedding dresses, but I highly doubt she will....

I think a lot of us feel this way!

Planning a wedding is super overwhelming and it is not easy to navigate or know what you want. Originally I wasn't that excited but as I started choosing and got closer to the date excitement built. I am excited to marry my best friend but also to have a fun and unique event with my friends and family.

I think just go through the motions of looking into bridesmaids dresses and enjoying the experience may help you! And if you are still not interested, eloping is just fine too

I totally feel you on this! Can’t wait to marry the guy, but do I really need to obsess about centerpieces? On my list of life priorities it just seems so far down the line!

I don’t think it is selfish to feel that way. I think it just means that you aren’t letting yourself get carried away from the big picture (the marriage) in order to make other people happy the day of the wedding.

You're not selfish at all! In my opinion, it's much better to not obsess over your wedding. I'm sure your friends appreciate how bride-chilla you are! You might not fit into the stereotypical dramatic bossy bride, but that's totally okay! Keep being relaxed and chill

I totally get this. I definitely got to a point where I didn't care about most things. Instead of saying "I don't care," though, I started framing it as "this item is not a priority for me." So, if my now-husband thought it was a priority for HIM, then he could handle it. Otherwise, it went in my eff-it bucket. This really helped me to frame the important parts of the day and helped things go smoothly last week at the wedding!

That is totally why I'm planning our casual, not a lot of frills wedding (basically summer family reunion that happens to have a wedding involved...). I can't justify the metric crap ton of money that weddings cost....I'm not willing to shell out the cost of a brand new car or a house down payment on a few hour long party. If that means I don't care about my wedding so be it. If someone doesn't like it they can feel free to excuse themselves from my guest list. And if that makes me a b---ch then so be that too. lol I agree with your social media comment...I think so many people put so much effort into the wedding/reception so they look good on social media that they forget that a marriage is work...sometimes really HARD work. Keep hanging in there!

I had the exact same feeling about my BM dresses, and my BP were kind of baffled. They all ended up choosing the same dress, but I was adamant about not choosing it for them!

I suggest not sharing any of your decisions with anyone not paying for things. It's none of their business what choices you make to feel comfortable.

DH and I were super clear about what was important to us - representing our shared passions, feeding our guests, having fun, and being LEGALLY MARRIED a the end of the day.

Everything else was unimportant.

You are absolutely right to care more about the marriage than the wedding day.