Feeling Salty

I think that makes a lot of sense because it reminds you of what you missed out on. but honestly i think what you did was by far so much smarter. i mean there was no way of really telling that restrictions would lift now, ya know? and i highly doubt that her wedding is going to be as ideal as it sounds. even if restrictions have lifted, it doesn't mean people still aren't wary of things.

I understand your feelings completely, and it's always okay to feel what you feel. Take some time to grieve the loss of your wedding this summer. For the good of family relationships, I'd try my best to put on a good face for your SIL's events. I wouldn't make the same choice she did, but she's entitled to make it. At the same time, if you feel like participating in her events is putting you or others you interact with at significant risk, you are entitled to decline invitations. Hang in!

I agree with this 100%. Jealousy is a normal feeling especially during this time but remember you are going to have your day and 11 months will come sooner than expected. Maybe you two can move it up sooner. Think of times you have been in weddings while single...that is hard (saying from experience). I agree to find it in your heart to be happy for her because if the situation were reversed you would want her to be happy for you. Best to have the event when things should be much better and you can have your full wedding.

Your feelings are totally normal and valid! Remind yourself that you're putting health and safety first. The other brides aren't getting to have their special days, they're risking having their special days. You will enjoy it so much more knowing that the risk is much lower for yours and you won't have to worry so much about loved ones getting sick or worse.

I agree that your feelings are valid. I also agree that you have to find a way to show face at her wedding. She is not the cause of your unhappiness, she didn't bring on Covid. I think that you can be jealous but is it really the worse ting to celebrate your life, happiness and the marriage of your FSIL.

I totally get where you are coming from. I postponed my July wedding to next year and it is tough to hear about people going through with full on weddings around the same time. But I keep reminding myself that we made the best decision we could with the information we had. I still feel like we made the right decision for the safety of all, but everyone gets to make their own choice as well. I know it is tough, but keep going back to the reasons you made the decision you did. And given the spikes in coronavirus cases across the country in places that had lax rules, you should probably feel more comforted that you have done the right thing by not having a large event right now.

I understand. It's ok to have these feelings as long as you don't take them out on others!

Everyone's having to make their own insanely difficult decision based on their personal priorities - so try to focus on the reasons why you decided it would be better to postpone. Since you've also been dealing with wedding planning during a pandemic, I think you have more insight than a lot of other people right now and can hopefully be really supportive of your future sister-in-law!