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Cookie, on August 15, 2019 at 2:06 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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I have two more months until my wedding and feeling down. Feeling a bit nervous.

since my sister and niece passed last year things are not the same. Since I got engaged I have been trying to get my mom involved and do the the mother and daughter wedding thing. But i just can’t get her into it. So I tried getting my FMIL and she could care less. I know if my sister and niece were here they would totally be involved and things would be different. So I ended up changing everything and doing a courthouse wedding with just me my mom and dad and His mom. But doing everything I can to incorporate them into the wedding. I guess I thought that every mom would love to be involved in their daughter wedding. I feel the same way with my dad he could care less.

I am a little disappointed about not having a bridal shower but I am excited that I will be marrying the man I love.

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Cookie · on August 15, 2019 at 2:08 AM
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Oh when I say I’m trying to incorporate them I mean my sister and niece. I had a charm made with their pictures
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Jeanie · on August 15, 2019 at 2:49 AM
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I’m sorry about your sister and niece. I take it that their deaths were very unexpected, and it sounds like you and your mother are still grieving. If you haven’t gotten any counseling for that, it may be a good idea for the whole family. Things like that can make it very hard to celebrate the living, like a survivors guilt. It sounds like you are doing all you can to try and get your mom involved and to keep your sister and nieces memory alive. I wish you luck, and congratulations!
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Sharon · on August 15, 2019 at 12:36 PM
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Try not to take it personally. It sounds like your family is still grieving and have a hard time finding happiness in things. Maybe a support group or grief counseling for everyone will help. You might also want to talk to your parents and let them know how hurt you are that they're not here for you. They may not realize how it affects you. I'm so sorry about your sister and niece. I hope that maybe your wedding will be the beginning of your family learning how to live with this grief.
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Sarah · on August 15, 2019 at 12:41 PM
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My FH’s older brother passed away unexpectedly in May of this year. All wedding planning was put on hold and even to this day, my FH doesn’t talk about our wedding planning with his parents as he fears it’ll come off insensitive to their grieving. I am so sorry for your loss- it sounds like you are celebrating their lives in the best way you can, by incorporating them in your new unity and life. Take this time to celebrate with your new husband. At the end of the day, you have the power to choose how you make the experience special. No one can take that from you!
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Cookie · on August 15, 2019 at 1:31 PM
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Thank you all for your support and advice. Not a day that I go by that so don’t think about my sister and niece. I think I just won’t discuss the wedding anymore to my parents. I think your all right that I feel guilty and I guess I still pretend they are on a looong vacation.

I do have support from my FH and the one thing he did was knowing how close my niece and I were he got her birthstone on my ring

thqnk you all for letting me get me get my feelings out
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Cookie · on August 15, 2019 at 1:31 PM
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My condolences to your FH. Sending angels and prayers his way
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