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Feeling Rushed and Annoyed

Jasmine , on May 29, 2017 at 10:13 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

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So I have had to push back my wedding due to financial reasons. My dad is helping me pay for my dress but everything else I and my FH are paying for. I have a mind set where I am trying to basically get everything that I have always dreamed of. I feel like since I'm paying why not get everything I want. My problem is it feels like my family is rushing me to hurry up and get married saying I need to just go to the court house either this year or next and do the whole big wedding later on. I under stand that 2019 is pretty far away but I am paying for everything and I have other crap going on too that I have to pay for. I'm in college and I have an issue with my gums that I have to pay out of pocket. I hate feeling rushed to get married because I'm living in sin. I am religious and I do want to be married to my FH I just want to do bbqbit the way I always envisioned. Is that wrong?

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Latest activity by Madelayna, on May 29, 2017 at 11:15 PM

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ambrok · on May 29, 2017 at 10:16 PM
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With the exception of the dress...you n FH are paying - you do your own thing : )

FH was a full time student, so we've been engaged for 4 yrs already...it's fine not to rush into it & it's smart to have a better footing to start a marriage out on/don't go into debt to have 'your' day...just save up til your date : )
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Beachy · on May 29, 2017 at 10:25 PM
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Do this in your own time. Don't let others rush you.
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MrsMitch · on May 29, 2017 at 10:28 PM
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Don't let anyone rush you. If they insist on you getting married sooner, tell them they are welcome to pay for it.
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Toya · on May 29, 2017 at 11:00 PM
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Take your time of you and FH agree on a timeline go for it...
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FutureFuji · on May 29, 2017 at 11:04 PM
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You do you especially when you are paying for it yourself. Good on you for not wanting to go into debt over a wedding.
FH and I are having an 11 month engagement and I can't tell you how many times people have commented on how soon/how fast that is (even though we dated 4 years before getting engaged). People will always talk and never be satisfied no matter what you do!
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Shelby · on May 29, 2017 at 11:04 PM
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Take your time! I'm also getting married in 2019 and it feels like it's forever away but my FH and I are going to have the wedding we want! Don't let anyone rush you especially since you are paying for it you don't want to have any regret later down the road and 2019 will come sooner than you think!
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Madelayna · on May 29, 2017 at 11:15 PM
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Nope you're right! Don't rush it I understand how you feel though. We've told our families that we're pushing ours back because of life events but there have been a couple people saying things like well you could do it this way (not the way we want) so we could get married sooner. And it's like....um no. We want a big wedding with lots of booze, food and people. And right now or the beginning of next year just isn't possible for us.

This probably won't work for you since your friends or family are saying to do the "big wedding" in the future. Hopefully they mean a vow renewal and not a marriage reenactment but what I did was I showed the people who were suggesting we do it cheaply, the actual costs for all the things we want. They were letting on that we could do our 100 guest wedding on maybe $6-7k when in reality what we want will come to $18k. So showing them the real prices and proposals pretty much shut down their suggestions.

I hope it gets better for you! Stick to what you think is right!!
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