Feeling overwhelmed

We are less than a month away and I feel exactly the same!

Relax. Enjoy the engagement. Keep things in perspective. If your linens don’t match exactly no one will notice. If your centerpieces aren’t exactly as you wanted no one will know. No things won’t be perfect. Life isn’t perfect. If you go in knowing something is going to go wrong (and plan on how you will handle it) you will be fine. What things are you most worried about?

There are days where I'm stressed as well. It's definitely a long list of things to do when it's all written out. But remember, as long as there's food, booze and some music people will enjoy themselves. When you're all done up in makeup and your dress you'll feel and look amazing. No matter what decision you make, No one will know what your other options were. Being a good host is a must but the other decisions are just that. Yours. A wedding is just a party. Your marriage is what's important. Don't let the planning stress you too much. Tackle a little at a time, make one decision at a time and don't get too caught up in the overall. Good luck! Little lists have helped me (ceremony l, reception, honeymoon to do's, etc.)

I did not particularly want a large wedding either. My biggest piece of advice would be to hire experienced vendors who know what they're doing, and then let them do their thing. This worked out very well for me. Also, I did not have this, but you might want to look into an all-inclusive venue if you don't care so much about every little detail.

What are you worried about? I'm confused as to why your self-esteem has had such a beating, and I feel bad for you. Can we help?

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I wouldn’t say my self esteem has taken a beating. I just think there are women who thrive on this and those of us who don’t. I want to do my very best to make a great party for FH but I worry with all these details I will miss something that will make a difference. Don’t feel bad for me. I was just venting.

Honestly, you don't need to do as much as you think you do to make the day great. Venue...ideally with in house caterer and bar and stuff like chairs & dishes, officiant, music and photographer and something to wear and some decor. Stay away from Pinterest. I wish I had. All those little things become crazy. Relax, you'll be fine.

I get overwhelmed easily if I take on too much at once. I’ve been pretty chill with wedding planning because I’ve made sure to take it all step by step. The checklist on here is pretty helpful.

YES girl, I hear you! I’m up at 2am because it just sort of hit me that I have so, so much to do, and everything is insanely expensive and everyone is asking about me a ton of questions I don’t know how to answer right now. (I just spent the last 6 months working on my thesis, so I had an excuse to avoid this in the meantime). But now I am STRESSED, for many of the reasons you stated above. I feel like I’m supposed to be enjoying planning this way, way more than I currently am. :-/

I A year away and im anxious too. Then i remember, family, my sister in laws and brother in laws try to help out allot. Reach out to family abd they will help. Plus....breath. do it A DAY AT A TIME. Breath. And congrats.

Relax, stressing over it won’t make it any better. You don’t actually have to do as much as you think you do. The only part that has me stressed out is the financial aspect and being in the spotlight.

I’m sure you won’t miss anything important if you follow a good planning list! Maybe pick one list that looks good and stick to it, rather that reading too many different sources and getting overwhelmed. Hopefully he is helping you since he’s the one who wanted the wedding!

I did NOT want a wedding at all. I wanted to elope and go on a honeymoon and that’s it. He said no because he was worried I’d be upset with him forever because of not having a wedding so basically we’re doing this all for him. My advice is to try and have fun with the process. I’m getting married in 5 days and I’m just ready for the honeymoon. The wedding day will be amazing either way because of the reason why you’re even doing this anyways

If you’re looking for a book with good advice that (hopefully) won’t stress you out, I highly recommend reading ‘A Practical Wedding’ by Meg Keene. I read it and loved it. My personal favorite line from it was “I will remember what my wedding felt like, not what my wedding looked like.” I have a post note of that on my computer for times when I get overwhelmed planning.

Yes! Im starting to feel it. Its jst alot to plan. I can focus on a million+ things at work, but planning a wedding! Ha! And we're only having 60 people, totally relaxed and non traditional lol. The other night I woke up in a panic that i was at the reception and there was no food because I never called the caterer. I then realized I needed help, which is hard for me, so don't be afraid to ask. Don't drive yourself crazy. I've been consumed with planning. Take a day off if you need too. Good luck 😊