Feeling overwhelmed

It’s okay, have the wedding you can afford. You don’t need to have a crazy expensive wedding. There’s definitely ways to cut cost. I completely get where your co

Sorry I hit submit before I was done! I was gonna day I completely get where your coming from and wedding costs are very outrageous & overwhelming! If you YouTube “budget weddings” you’ll get some great ideas! Do you have a venue yet?

Big hugs. Breathe. You can still have a beautiful wedding on a budget. What about a very small afternoon wedding at a courthouse, church or beautiful venue (hotel, garden) then a “cake & punch” reception at someone’s house, church hall or community center? You can skip the costly DJ & catering, keep decor to a minimum. ♥️

You can still have a wedding with a limited budget. Previous posters gave great recommendations. Another option is to have a courthouse ceremony with a few people and then go to dinner with 10 or so of your closest friends and family or have a caterer set up at someone's backyard or a local park.

If it makes you feel any better I cried when I started planning too. Its overwhelming and the costs can be astronomical and it can feel very isolating. I sat down with my fiance shortly after breaking down and we had an honest and open conversation about what we both wanted, what we could afford and how we would make it work - together. There are lots of options to make it more affordable and at the end of the day, you get to marry the love of your life! Hopefully you can talk to him and figure it out.

Aw, hugs! I know how overwhelming planning can be, especially financially. I remember there are days during my year long planning where I just felt like oh my god I am spending so much on this one day. It is an overall cringeworthy feeling just spending so much in general on something. You can definitely have a wedding on a budget still. So many posts and articles talk about dollar tree wedding hacks or alternative ideas. Do not be afraid to ask your friends and family for things they can lend you too. I was not afraid to ask around for items that other people may have so that I did not have to spend money to buy. Whatever you do, it will be beautiful and memorable. And whenever you feel overwhelmed, take a break! I took a long break from planning at one point because I just felt like I needed it. Sometimes it can become a lot and you need to just compose yourself and keep your mental health well.

Like PPs said, a fancy wedding is not required at all! I'm a huge fan of small weddings because they're so personal and intimate. Maybe consider having a smaller wedding! I hope you and FH can come to an agreement

Hugs and breathe! I was so overwhelmed when I started seeing price tags. I also lost my job a month after getting engaged. This was the lesson I didn't know I needed. Thank goodness we didn't book anything yet, so if we have to push the wedding back we can. I don't know how things will end up, but I have faith it'll work out. Dollar Tree has a website now and it's perfect for ordering decor. Also check out FB Marketplace, Freecycle and Craigslist for deals. I'm also going to hit up some flea markets. A lot can be accomplished with a can of spray paint. Also, volunteer firehouses and rescue squads have halls you can rent and then bring your own food and drink to serve buffet style. Sometimes for a little extra they'll let you rent out their kitchen. You can order real flowers online in bulk or from a local wholesaler and do your own bouquets. Also, bridesmaids are now carrying paper, wood and silk flowers, craft hoops, lanterns and even cotton candy down the aisle instead of fresh flowers. Keep your head up. You'll be fine!

I was the same way when I first got engaged. I wanted a nice wedding but once we started looking I got overwhelmed with venues and pricing. There was too many details that added hundreds of dollars to our budget. We didn’t want to elope since most elope locations were short timed and usually office looking. I happened to come across some city hall venues that actually are gorgeous since they have amazing architecture that look beautiful. We’re getting married at San Francisco City Hall a year from now since they offer one to two hour weddings packages under 2,000. We chose a one hour one priced at just 1,000 and little extra for seating. So it’s like a more extravagant elopement because I still get to walk down the aisle and have bridesmaids but for a good amount price. I would definitely look into places like that if you are interested in having something that resembles a wedding but isn’t gonna overwhelm you. If anything, you guys can budget for a ceremony location and have a reception at a house or restaurant. Don’t let it overwhelm you. If it all comes down to it, remember why you are marrying this person and rethink your options. Is it more important for you to have a big wedding or to downsize and sacrifice a few details. At the end of the day, it’s about the reason you are you doing this. Don’t let costs break you down. Breathe and take it step by step. Good luck!

Thank you ladies! We are dealing with extra stress trying to move and trying to find a place we can afford. So that's been rough, and the lady who interviewed me told me Id hear either way by the middle of this week whether or not I got the job. Its the end of the week and still nothing.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. No, no venue yet.