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Just Said Yes September 2020

Feeling overwhelmed!

Caitlyn, on October 8, 2019 at 7:09 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

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So I'm definitely starting to feel the overwhelming feeling of planning. Our wedding is set for September 12, 2020, and I realize that is a ways away, but I'm still feeling the stress big time. My FH and I have already locked down our venue. My parents just purchased my dress a few weekends ago. I've already got my bridal party picked out and I'm working on getting their "proposal" gifts together. We've made our guest list and have successfully gotten all but like 4-5 addresses so that when it comes time for us to send save the dates and invitations we're not scrambling to get those gathered up. At first, it seemed like so much fun to start looking at Pinterest more seriously and to start actually planning details, but today I came to a point where I was like "ok no I don't really want to think about it right now". Has anyone else felt their sense of happiness just drain from them at any point during their planning? I think the major culprit for me is the financial aspects of weddings. I am currently in between leaving a job and starting a new one next week so my pay is out of loop temporarily. I'm also in school full time for my Masters. I want to be excited about planning, but I feel like excitement is turning into stress because of the number of things I'm putting on my plate. Any and all advice, happy vibes, thoughts are welcome and greatly appreciated! I know I can't be the only one who has felt some type of way lol

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Latest activity by Melle, on October 9, 2019 at 10:56 AM

Super October 2020
Megan · on October 8, 2019 at 7:41 PM
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Aww, I’m so sorry you’re feeling overwhelmed! But you have two biggies down—the venue and the dress!! I would advise getting The Knot Wedding Planner on Amazon if you haven’t already. It’s helping me with a LOT.

I also totally feel you on being overwhelmed. Our wedding is a long time away but we are also feeling the financial stress and realization of how expensive this stuff can really be.

I recommend taking a weekend break from this! Or delegate one day where you don’t talk about wedding stuff at all.

Sending you all of the positive vibes!!
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Reena · on October 8, 2019 at 7:58 PM
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I was feeling that way about a month ago. First step is to set an overall budget, but it’s hard to determine how much to spend in each area. Then pick priority areas (photography, venue, etc)

We decided to hire a wedding planner. She does wedding planning on the side so she is cheaper than a full time planner. She has been amazing. We are still interviewing vendors, but she gives us names of a few that she likes and are in budget. Now I don’t feel overwhelmed by all of the choices. So something you may want to consider
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Expert September 2020
Marcia · on October 8, 2019 at 8:49 PM
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I was feeling the same way(mine is one week after yours). I took a long weekend and tried not to think about anything wedding related. No Pinterest, wedding wire, etc. It really helped me to regroup and get excited again.
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Just Said Yes September 2020
Caitlyn · on October 8, 2019 at 8:59 PM
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I’m thinking I’m going to take some time away from it because I also don’t want people on my social media to get tired of hearing about it as well. I don’t want to annoy people with my business and I’m the type of person that for whatever reason feels like they need to have everything done and planned. I think taking a break from it all for a little bit will help me realize that I don’t have to have every tiny detail figured out in one night. It takes time and we’ll get things taken care of when the time comes to handle specific things.
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Dedicated October 2019
Krystal · on October 9, 2019 at 5:04 AM
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It’ll get better, the planning comes in waves. What helped me was my fiancé is super involved and we knocked the big items out the first month of being engaged. We had a ten month engagement and now our wedding is next week. In between little things would come up here and there but now that we are getting closer so many detail items are popping up so the work is piling up again. But keep it fun, take breaks and start early so you can take a breather if needed
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Devoted November 2021
Sarah · on October 9, 2019 at 6:03 AM
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I wake up in the morning and think "Yay! Wedding planning!" And gleefully scroll through Pinterest or WeddingWire. But when it comes to actually executing plans or spending money I get STRESSED OUT. I feel like everyday I go through extreme highs and lows, and I feel like that's kinda normal. Part of me just wants to get everything done, and part of me never wants it to end!
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on October 9, 2019 at 10:56 AM
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Sounds like you've so much done already though. For me there was definitely a point where it was overwhelming and I was tired so I just stopped aha. I took weeks off from wedding planning to just live my life before I went back at it.
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