Feeling lonely?

I have been dealing with this but I had to realize a lot of people are going to unintentionally be a bit selfish (not to be rude haha) I ended up expressing my feelings to everyone and being completely honest and they have all been open and transparent about how they are feeling. I didn’t realize one of my groomsmen was dealing with personal financial issues so once we talked about it, my fiancé and I decided we would be willing to help him out so he could be a part of the wedding!

It’s common because unfortunately no one else is as excited about your wedding as you are or as you hoped. I felt that too. But just know that they’re happy for you they just aren’t expressing it as much as we would like or hope for

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This right here. I do not mean to be up front but it is your day and not theirs. They have their own lives to lead. I get that you want to discuss wedding stuff all the time because I want to as well but that is why I come here because I cannot constantly discuss with my friends. Your day is an exciting time but at the same time it is not the big day for others. As the pp said of course they are happy for your day but realistically they may not want to discuss it all the time. They will be there the day of but the good thing about this forum is this is where you can share your joys as well as concerns.

This is totally normal, but I wouldn't go ditching the wedding party just yet! A couple things to think about:

1. It is likely that these feelings are amplified for you, since you're the one experiencing them, but if roles were reversed and you weren't the bride, you may not understand these strong feelings. Separate out the facts (groomsman left party, bridesmaid chat is usually quiet) from your feelings (my wedding party couldn't care less about me and the wedding since they're not responding. Think logically: if you send out a group chat on Tuesday at 2pm, most bridesmaids are likely at work, etc.

2. Think about your wants and needs, and express them specifically to one or two people that you know will be actively involved. This should be your FH and could also be a parent or future in-law. Do you need someone to review the vendor contracts to make sure you're not missing anything? Do you want someone to review your pro/cons list to decide on a florist? Set up a weekly wedding call just to chat or let your FH know vendor meetings so he can be prepared too!

Often times, we expect everyone and their sister to just be continuously asking about planning and be over the moon (or if you do have this, often times you just want some peace and quiet lol) but we don't have clear communication for what we want/need. I have a feeling that if you asked any of the wedding party, they'd feel confident that they are holding up their end by doing things such as getting dresses, planning a shower, etc. and have no idea you're feeling this way!

Yes, that’s why I’m so glad I found these forums because I honestly usually tell you guys the things I’m excited about instead of my own friends! It’s especially difficult for me because a lot of people in my life are already married and have moved on to having babies, so they’re like look at my child and I’m like but I got my dress...It’s just what happens I guess, because we decided to buy the house before we got married so we put off marriage for a few years. But you can always share things with us! It’s so so SO wonderful to see all these people celebrating each other, even if it’s just through online.

Yes, but as PP said that is why this website and forums are so great. You get to talk to people/ brides who are just as excited about their own wedding so they can share in the excitement of yours as well. The other person I talk to the most is my FH because he is just as excited about the wedding as I am.

I feel the same way too! My bridesmaids don't answer me in the group chat either!