Feeling lonely before my wedding

Oh no is there something someone else can do to help alleviate the stresses of planning? E.g can you guys hire a wedding planner or find an inclusive wedding package

View Quoted Comment His mother has offered to take over a lot of the planning. The problem is, she has just started planning things without asking, and I’m quickly realizing if I let her take over all of it then it will be her style. Which is quite different from mine. Part of me thinks I should let her and just try to get through the day, but the other part of me is scared I’ll start crying the day of showing up to a wedding that doesn’t feel like my own. My shower is already something I would never want and I’m dreading going to it.

View Quoted Comment As for a planner, it’s probably not within their budget and I would be met with “why can’t we plan it?”


And I should point out I’m terrified to tell her know or stand up for myself because her heart is in the right place.

View Quoted Comment I absolutely don’t want your mindset for your wedding to be “get thru the day” that’s not how it should be can you ask her to plan within some guidelines you have or tell her these are things you prefer in your style or simply just keep it super simple

It's very interesting that you're posting what you just posted because I had an emotional feeling lonely moment as well and I was talking to my friend at work and I thought she had a really good wedding and she was explaining all the issues that she had and much like you she finally just got to a point where she wasn't nervous because she just wanted the wedding to be over. I think it's great that your fiance's family is very happy but sadly when people do provide money sometimes they feel they have a say. I don't know if it's too late as in all of the things were purchased but I really think that you should sit down with your fiance as well as your family and thank them for all that they are doing but you would like to have some say in the decision-making as you are starting to notice that your original idea for the wedding is not fully being executed. Maybe the things that are the most important to you like let's save it is the decoration you can ask them to let you decide how you want it to look and then maybe give them some control over it. I also apologize as I know what it's like to plan a wedding without your mom and I'm sure it's even that much harder considering the fact that you two are estranged. Hopefully in the future you to kind of work things out and I do hope that things get better for you.

View Quoted Comment I think it’s ok to say hey this is nice but I prefer xyz instead. Because at the end of the day they’re here for you and they do want you to be happy

I went through something very similar (minus being estranged from my mom). Feel free to DM if you need someone to just vent to, talk about wedding details with, or even help planning. I know how stressful it can be especially when feeling pretty alone on it. xoxo

To subtly let her know what you have in mind for your wedding, create a Pinterest board of your wedding vision then add her to it.

I agree with pp a pinterest board or vision board of what you prefer and share it with the mom. Showers are hard they are usually thrown by other people and you wouldn't have much say in them. Don't dread your own wedding that hurts my heart to hear.

View Quoted Comment I followed this advice! Fingers crossed!

View Quoted Comment Thank you ❤️❤️❤️