Feeling let down

It really sucks, but it’s also a global pandemic so I understand your grandmas reasoning. Maybe their is a way you can incorporate your grandma using technology.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, thing is she also started telling me how she went across the country to visit my cousins and their new baby.

Is it because of Covid? If so that's definitely understandable but I get why you're upset

Hi ! Covid sucks, you know... people get scared, and maybe that's the case of your grandmother. I had a friend who after getting vaccinated started to refuse to see people inside... because she wanted to protect herself. Everyone has his issues about covid I guess...

At my wedding I had only my mum and my cousin, and we were 53 ! My dad and my grandma couldn't come as they were already ill... But they were happy for me and we saw each-other after the wedding.

Don't let it spoil your day !

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry she won’t be able to attend your wedding. I know how hard planning and then having a wedding during a pandemic can be. Did your grandmother travel before the rise in delta cases? I only ask because I got married last month June 4 and the cases were low and so was the infection rate maybe 0.72. We even had a week with zero deaths. And only a month later the cases have gone up so much and infection rate is back to being high. Maybe she traveled before the new rise in delta and all the new information that’s come out about it. My husband and I did live streaming for our wedding. And a friend of ours was so kind to live stream the entire reception. It was a great way to connect with everyone who we couldn’t invite and who did not feel comfortable attending. Everyone appreciated the live stream so much. Hope all goes well.

It sucks she won’t be there but it is not safe for her to be. She is high risk (age, if not more) and with the delta variant on the rise she is 100% making the smart and safe decision. Not an emotional one. I’m assuming this is also why she hasn’t met your son born during Covid. Be understanding and schedule time for next year to visit her.

AW, I'm sorry. I can understand how you feel slighted, but this is Covid times. It not sounding like it's going to get much better any time soon. I'm sure she'll visit when it's safe. Honestly with the rise in Delta cases I'm not sure I'd get into a big group either.

I’m so sorry Lexi. As a covid bride myself (married last year) I totally get it. Not sure if it is possible, but could grandma have special, safe, seating for the ceremony and reception? Many weddings have cute small tables for two (if grandma has a caregiver to sit with). Again I’m so sorry. Sending positive vibes to you ❤️

View Quoted Comment Double standards suck. Your feelings are completely valid. I don't know there is any way for you to change her mind aside from saying that you are hurt and feel like you are being treated unequally. So sorry you are going through this.

I know COVID is a thing and it is a global pandemic and one absolutely cannot and should not blame grandma for not coming because of it, and everyone should do all they can to stay safe and careful during these troubling times (WEAR UR MASKS KIDS). That is true and my 100% belief regardless of my next paragraph.


I give you my blessing to be upset. To feel slighted especially since you seem to get the short end of the stick. I feel like so often people forget we are allowed to feel more than one thing simultaneously! You can be completely understanding of the reasoning due to COVID and still be po’d about being slighted for what must feel like the 800th time. Sometimes you just need to throw logic out the window and let yourself be mad/sad for a little while and then you allow logic to come back into the picture. Ik you don’t need some stranger’s permission to feel any way you feel, but be sad if that’s what you’re feeling. don’t allow yourself or anyone else to push aside your true emotion of the moment because it’s what you’re supposed to do (it’s a lesson we as women have been taught for far too long… to ignore our feelings so as not to seem unreasonable).

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100% this. I know it sucks especially if you haven't been treated fairly in the past. But her not coming because of the risk is likely very much about her being safe.

That said poster above me is also 100% correct. It's totally valid to be upset about the situation. It absolutely sucks and I hope that you still have a lovely wedding.