Devoted October 2021

Feeling Kinda Blue

Susan, on September 7, 2021 at 4:43 PM Posted in Planning 1 8

We've finished tracking down our final RSVP's, and I'm feeling kinda sad as certain people have RSVP'ed no. They have absolutely valid reasons, and yet, after rescheduling our wedding for a third time thanks to Covid, it's still kinda sad that people aren't going to make it. I do understand their reasons, I just had hoped they'd be there. Smiley sad I know it'll be a great day (if we don't get shut down!), but I can't help being kind of wistful about what would have been if everyone could have come. Plus, we cut our guest list in half after Covid, from 150 down to 70, and so the people we did invite were really the closest of our friends and family. To not have them attend is really, really sad.


Latest activity by Ellen, on September 11, 2021 at 3:19 PM
  • S
    Beginner September 2021
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    Aww I know how you feel. We had a few people rsvp no as well and I鈥檓 super sad about it. All you can do is try to make the best of it with the people there with you and celebrate love with your significant other 馃挏
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  • Jacks
    Master September 2019
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    Aw, I'm sorry. This does really suck. I'm sure you'll still have an amazing day. Best wishes!

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  • Krystina
    Dedicated October 2021
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    Feeling the same way! Our guest list was only 50 of the closest friends and family so every RSVP no is a major letdown. But I know we'll still have a great time with the people who did attend! I just wish I could have spent the day with those people who said no, too.

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  • A.B.
    Dedicated November 2021
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    Much love to you! I'm in a similar boat though it's b/c of the boundaries I set. I don't regret setting them but that doesn't make me any less sad to not see everybody there. FH doesn't care about the event and just wants to be married but it's going to be mostly his guests there. That was always the case b/c his family is more than twice the size of mine but still.

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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
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    You're not alone. We had a lot more declines than we anticipated. While there were some people we expected to decline there were some surprises which we are disappointed about. What can you do? All valid reasons but still disappointed. Yes, we will all have a great, amazing time at our weddings but still a bit of a let down.
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  • Dayna
    Expert September 2021
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    We also had more declines than expected. We had to track down over half of our RSVPs which was already frustrating, and in the end only 98 out of our list of 155 are attending. I know its still a good size wedding, but we have a venue for 200 people and I think its just going to feel so empty. Since we rescheduled our wedding is on a Monday which made it hard for people with work and school, and covid is raging in Florida which caused several people to change their mind at the last minute and change from accept to decline. I understand people's decisions, but I was really looking forward to seeing some extended family on both sides who we don't see often.

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  • Allison
    Devoted April 2021
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    It definitely hurts getting those No responses...two of my bridesmaids didn't attend my wedding due to COVID and a lot of my close friends also didn't attend. I really did enjoy that we had a smaller wedding (ended up with 120, out of 240 invited) but I do still get sad thinking about how a lot of the people I love most in the world couldn't make it. My advice is to let yourself feel sad but don't let it impact how you view your wedding - I just keep reminding myself that I know those people wanted to be at the wedding and I can't fault them for putting their health and safety first.

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  • Ellen
    Devoted October 2021
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    We had declines as well. However some of them want to go to the church to see us married. Maybe an option? Maybe live stream them in? I felt disappointed at first too, but their reasons were valid and I figured we could catch up with them after the wedding.
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