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Feeling Kind of Strange

Veronica, on November 24, 2019 at 4:38 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 5

One of my good friends is getting married in June. Him and I have been talking about the wedding and he has asked me for some advice since I just got married in July. He wasn't in my wedding for a couple of reasons. Number one being cost. He has a decent paying job, but he is the process of getting married and buying a house. He was also traveling for my wedding and doesn't like to spend money so I didn't want to ask him to shell out $200 for a tux. I also originally asked 2 of my other closest friends to be in my wedding and they dropped out and I had considered asking him at that point to be in the wedding, but I didn't want him to feel like a replacement so I didn't ask him. Fast forward he is now getting married as I said and I went online today to see if they have a wedding website. I found that they do have a site and that I'm listed as a bridesmaid. Neither he or his fiancee have said anything to me about being in the wedding. While I am honored and would definitely say yes because he really is one of my closest friends, I feel kind of strange about it. I feel bad because he wasn't in my wedding, but if I could do it all over again I would have had him in my wedding instead of one of the girls that was in my wedding. I also barely know his fiancee. I've met her a few times and she is really sweet, but I know next to nothing about her. I guess this is more just a letting it off my chest thing because I would definitely agree to be in the wedding because he is a really good friend of him, but I just feel a little weird about it.

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Latest activity by Cher Horowitz, on November 24, 2019 at 11:32 PM
  • Sabrina
    Devoted April 2020
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    I understand feeling weird that they listed you as a BM before asking, but if you are willing, then go with it. I don’t think it matters how well you know the fiancé because you know him and you are there to support him and her. Not everyone in our wedding party knows me or my fiancé but they know of us and what not (long distance and everyone is scattered through out the states). Just so what you can to support your friend.
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  • Sophie
    Devoted June 2022
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    That definitely does sound strange, but I agree with PP - I would just go with it! Maybe the wedding website wasn’t supposed to be viewed by the public yet? Are their save the dates coming out soon? Maybe that’s when they’re planning on releasing info about their wedding website. I would just wait a few weeks and wait for him to ask you because it’s probably coming soon!
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    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    They said they were sending their save the dates within a few weeks and that was a few weeks ago. I just feel guilty that I didn't have him in my wedding. I never thought he'd have me in his.
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  • Sophie
    Devoted June 2022
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    Don’t feel guilty! You has very valid reasons for not having him in yours. Clearly there are no hard feelings if he wants you to be in his Smiley smile
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    You've done nothing wrong! I can definitely see why you're feeling guilty, but try not to let it eat at you

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