Feeling guilty

I don’t think it’s selfish, if people are really worried then they wouldn’t come!

I wouldn't feel guilty. People can make the choice on whether or not they feel comfortable attending, and those that attend know that they are risking COVID by attending an event during a pandemic. As long as you have precautions in place (social distancing, masks, hand sanitizer, move ceremony and/or reception outdoors, etc), I don't think you should feel guilty. If you are uncomfortable hosting your wedding, are you able/willing to postpone? You could also do a super small ceremony this year, and save the larger reception for next year.

I feel the same way, but like others who posted before me, if your guests aren't comfortable they won't come. We are taking as many precautions as we can and while it totally sucks to have a COVID wedding, I don't want to wait another year to be married to my sweetheart! Take a deep breath and take some time away from planning to relax! *hugs!*

I agree with PP, don't feel guilty. I spent so much time feeling guilty and it was taking a serious toll on my mental health. We didn't have the option to post-pone because of our lack of regulations we would have lost so much money and couldn't afford to do that. Once we started our pre-marital counseling and FH and I started actively praying for each other together I found so much peace with it because I get to marry my best friend and accepted that some people aren't going to come and that if guest were invited and feel uncomfortable they don't have to come.

I don't feel guilty at all. If any one of our guests do not feel safe in attending I am not going to think less of them. I don't care if all 50 (that was our invite count all along) show up or none show up. I would like 2020 to have SOME HAPPINESS and GOOD. And right now, planning my wedding, having my wedding is the good. My FH and I along with 90% of our guests are ALL essential workers who have not taken a break since Covid started. Everyone that has stated they are attending are all doing so because they too are looking for something GOOD in 2020. It is giving us all hope and a much needed break. So again,I do not feel guilty one bit.

I feel extremely guilty for several reasons...I feel guilty for having a small wedding without all my loved ones there. I feel guilty for risking 18 of my closest family and friends health for the small wedding. I think if you're feeling guilty now= postponing or doing a small wedding would still make you feel guilty. I think you're feeling guilty because you are worried about everyone and everything during trying times. Your guests have had to weigh out their decision themselves, there is no need to take on the burden of their decisions. I bet you will have a lovely wedding !

I actually have a different opinion than most prior posters. I would try as much as possible to keep physical distancing between yourselves and the guests (and among the guests too, as much as you can control that) and also encourage mask usage. We postponed until next year for the exact reason of not jeopardizing our loved ones' health. I hope you are able to have a safe and beautiful wedding/event!

I'm having mine too and I sometimes feel the same way, but the area is super low risk. We are taking precautions, most guests are family that already live in that area, etc. I try to just let myself be happy though because everyone is right; if people don't feel comfortable coming, it's not like I would disown them over it. I also trust everyone invited to take precautions and stay home if they are in any way shape or form sick.

So at first, I was feeling this way because, of course, I wouldn't want anyone getting sick because they went to our wedding but then FH is told me its THEIR choice to be there and honestly, some people need to take their minds off the pandemic and have a little fun!! So don't feel guilty!! If you are taking the necessary precautions that's all you can do and hope that the people who don't feel well and don't feel comfortable stay home and support from afar. Your day is still about you and your SO, so I say enjoy it even if it came down to only being a few people!! Life goes on in a sense, that may sound bad but ask yourself this, if the pandemic is still here next year when would you get married?? It might be for a while with this pandemic continuing, unfortunately.

We postponed our April wedding to the September, so when I sent the second round of invitations in the summer, everyone who RSVPed was already aware of the pandemic was going on. That being said we have taken every possible precaution to spread out tables, switch from buffet meal to plated meal, hand sanitizer favors, masks, you name it. At the end of the day we did all we could. Honestly, I wish I had never postponed and just had a intimate wedding with 10 people, because postpone he has been hell on my mental health. But we are moving with our 50 person wedding in three weeks. Best of luck to you, you deserve a great day try not to think about it!