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Feeling guilty about rescheduling wedding

Marie, on March 21, 2020 at 9:28 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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We officially made the call to cancel or postpone our April 4th Wedding this past Monday. Most of the guest list required a flight to come in meaning people had been planning for this for months.

We are now trying to decide if we want to postpone till late this year/early next or just elope. Where I’m struggling a bit is I feel guilty about asking people to plan for a whole new weekend for us in the future and rebook flights/hotels (everyone was refunded everything). I am also concerned that while my fiancé and I are not being impacted financially by COVID-19 that it is selfish to ask others who are to commit to our wedding again.
Anyone else feeling a similar way?

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Latest activity by Jo, on March 23, 2020 at 5:45 PM

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Erin · on March 21, 2020 at 10:38 AM
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If they financially can't go, it's on them to RSVP no this time. I wouldn't feel guilty about wanting to have your day even at a later date. You can't change what's going on in the world, and this postponement was completely out of your control. If they were refunded for everything, no one was out money for this date, so it shouldn't be a problem to plan for a later date.
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Samantha · on March 21, 2020 at 1:11 PM
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I understand where you’re coming from, but as long as you’re understanding that some people may have a chance in plans (and it sounds like you are), then there is nothing wrong with asking them to celebrate with you. I’d still like to participate if I could or at least be asked, even if my circumstances had changed and I was no longer able to come.
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Kellyann · on March 21, 2020 at 4:40 PM
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Everyone is being rather accommodating, so dont stress. Most flights are waiving change fees through Dec 31, so just make sure to reschedule by that time. Hotels are doing the same. I think people are more concerned with contracting Covid-19. My guests totally expected it.
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Jo · on March 23, 2020 at 5:45 PM
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It's kind of you to care about how this impacts others, but the choice you made is nothing to feel guilty about. You're doing what is best for your guests' health, your health, everyone who would come in contact with your guests while they traveled... This is an unprecedented time and you're doing what you need to do. When you're ready to reschedule think about the kind of wedding YOU want to have. Maybe you can consider a live stream for people who can't afford to/don't feel able to reschedule?
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