Feeling fat and ugly: size 32

No matter what size you should feel beautiful in your dress. You significant other is marrying you for you. There must be something about the dress you liked if you decided it was the one. Don't be so hard on yourself.

View Quoted Comment It's just so embarrassing. I had tried to lose weight but I yo-yo diet. All the guests seeing me at my size.

I'm sure you looked beautiful! Also remember that wedding dresses run extremely small and most people vary 4-10 sizes depending on the dress. As Keri said, your SO is marrying you for you

I'm sorry you can't see your beauty. Your FS clearly loves you as you are, so keep that in mind when you feel like this. Did you stick to just one style? Maybe something different would help you see yourself the way you deserve. I say all this as someone who is bigger now than I have ever been in my life. It is hard to see what others tell me they see, but I also need to feel it. I'm making the changes I feel are right for me to help that. I am not going to tell you to diet or spend hours at the gym at all!!! But maybe you can find something that gives you body confidence. I know bigger women that get into bellydance or some other body positive activity that helps them feel more confident in their own skin. Be good to yourself and remember that we are our own harshest critics.

That sucks, Patty. It is so, so hard in our society to be a fat person. Even though things are changing, overall there is still this perception that fat=bad. Media tells us that we have "inner beauty" and that we should love ourselves the way we are, but then we are BOMBARDED with unobtainable beauty standards. Feeling insecure about your body and your weight isn't going to change overnight. And that's okay. I feel like there is a lot of pressure on people with body issues to "learn to love themselves" before getting married. Like, we are made to feel guilty for feeling bad about ourselves (and we feel bad about ourselves because society tells us we should.) I'm really sorry that you don't like your dress, and I hope that you can find a solution that makes you happy, because you deserve to be.

I'm also a fat girl. I'm a size 20. And I also have severe acne. I know it's hard but don't let this stop you from having the wedding of your dreams.

I'm also a size 32. I'm a smoking hot SSBBW and my soon-be-husband loves my body.

Thank you everyone. This is all very helpful.

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way, I often do too when I try things on. I think one of the hardest things to realize too is that bridal sizing is wayyy different than regular sizes. I had a bridesmaid that was in such dismay that her bridal size was so much higher (can't remember the actual number) than what she usually wears, which is like a size 0 (lol must be nice). It took so long to convince her that the number doesn't really matter with the funky bridal sizing, as long as the dress is the correct measurement and fits, who cares what the number is.

But I say that to say this: I really hope you do grow to be more comfortable in your dress, because as others have said, you are beautiful and FS is marrying you for you and that's what matters most - not a number.