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Dedicated September 2018

Feeling Distant from Fiance

Paige, on April 9, 2018 at 2:06 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3
Hello there! Here because I guess I could use some reassurance or suggestions on what to do. My fiance and I are planning are wedding and we are also remodeling a house at the same time. My fiance also works third shift and I work a normal 8-5. All of these lead to us not seeing each other very often. We have time on the weekends and sometimes evenings. Lately I feel like I'm going through the motions and just working on getting things done and working on wedding planning as getting yet another task done rather than this big exciting thing. I feel distant from my fiance and all our talks usually relate to something financial to make sure we're budgeting correctly or talking about our current house and getting it cleaned up for move in time. We don't really have much going on besides that and it can feel like we're more interested in getting the future set up rather than the fact that we're doing this together for us. I could just be being oversensitive about it because I want more help wedding planning and he's not super into it but idk.

Does this seem like something seminormal pre-wedding or a bigger red flag?

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Latest activity by Nicole, on August 21, 2019 at 3:20 PM
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    Expert September 2019
    Anna ·
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    You’re not being over sensitive, it’s completely understandable to think that way.
    In my honest opinion, it sounds completely normal. Between the different shifts and all of the planning and working, it takes a lot out of you and will make anyone go into “auto pilot”. I would maybe try to have one night or one weekend day a week to place a rule where you can’t talk about finances or anything that you feel is stressing you two out. Might help might not help, but that is my suggestion.
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    Dedicated September 2018
    Paige ·
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    Thank you for the advice. We had a talk last night and it helped.
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    Savvy October 2019
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    This is my exact current situation except I am the one who works nights. Like to a T exact. Did it eventually get better?
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