Feeling discouraged

I expect that excitement will increase as your wedding gets closer. She may also be one that doesn’t get super involved or excited about weddings. Were you dating your fiancé when she married in?

View Quoted Comment She is actually my fiancé sister…they were super close before we met…so I’m hoping it’s just that the wedding is far away and the excitement will come. It would be so nice to get along but I know that’s not always the outcome.

Fellow October 2022 bride, I'm sorry that she doesn't seem excited - but you still have a lot of time. I'm not even excited for my own wedding at this point (it comes and goes). When I had stuff to plan and got things booked I was excited, or talking to my best friend about things. But now that I don't have much to do right now there is a lull in excitement until I go dress shopping in a few months time, then I'm sure I'll be excited again. I hope the closer it gets the more excited she will be, but honestly nobody will be as excited for your wedding as you.

You still have well over a year to go so she may get excited closer to the date. But also, you're just gonna have to understand that no one will be as excited as you. Yes some people may be, but some people won't be.

I agree with the others. Also, her not putting the girls in the shirts and sending you a picture may not even be something that has crossed her mind. I especially wouldn't take that as a sign of disinterest. I've bought my niece clothing on several occasions. I've never expected a pic of her in them.

You will hear this said on here a lot, but no one is going to be anywhere close to as excited about you wedding as you are. I think if you adjust your expectations to be a little bit more realistic, you will be much happier as you continue the planning process. You have a long way until your wedding, so you might not find that momentum and enthusiasm really picks up until you get much closer. Moms are busy people - have you asked her to snap a quick picture and send it to you when she has time? Or were you just waiting for her to do that on her own?

My in-laws never once asked about anything concerning the wedding with the exception of my MIL right after getting engaged. Don’t take it personally.

Your wedding is a while away and she has a life and children. I don’t know what people expect when they say others aren’t showing “interest” in their wedding. When my BIL & SIL got engaged and we’re planning their wedding I was not reaching out to ask about color schemes and flowers. I figured if she wanted my opinion or help she’d ask for it. No one - no one - is going to care that much about your wedding other than you and your fiancé. It doesn’t mean anything personal against you.

We're getting married in October 2022 and my SIL and all 3 of her kids are in our wedding. We don't talk about wedding stuff unless there's something exciting happening (like when I just found my dress) but even then it's only if we're hanging out at a family get together and are just chatting anyway. Just because she isn't actively reaching out doesn't mean she's not looking forward to you marrying her brother. She's a mom of multiple kids, she's just busy and has her own stuff going on. Try not to be discouraged and just focus on your relationship with her in ways that don't involve your wedding.

It is a year and a half away. Your expectations are way over the top. Meanwhile, two of the last 3 times brides insisted on buying clothes as faraway as 7 and 8 months, I had to completely re do it from head to toe, new clothes, within the last 2 months, with the old ones given away because they were more than 2 sizes small.
She probably does not know what to say to you. Here is a picture of the one and only time they will wear them? Hold off with other people, and deal with vendors and companies. Families and bridesmaids, there is nothing they need to do til 7 months. Don't wear them out til they just do not care, now.

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You will be doing yourself a huge favor if you don't place expectations on other people for how excited they should be about your events. You have a LONG way to go until your wedding, and if you spend all the time keeping tabs on who is and who isn't "properly" excited, you will ruin it for yourself.

Relationships take time and effort on both sides to build. If you want to improve your relationship with your future SIL, focus on doing that in small ways that have nothing to do with your wedding (inviting her to lunch, texting to ask her how her day is, how her kids are doing, etc.).

I have almost the same exact situation - except my FMIL, she’s very interested. But my fiancé’s sister, with whom he is extremely close? Not interested at all lol. With me anyway. I sent her a picture of the bridesmaids dress because we were giving her the choice between wearing my girls’ color or the groomsmen color and she basically told me she didn’t like it at all. 😬 She opted for the groomsmen color (totally fine) but also never sent me a single picture of the dress she chose. And I wasn’t trying to be all bridezilla about it but she’s in the wedding party so I sorta wanted to give it the bride stamp of approval, I had NO idea what it looked like! 😂 nor did my fiancé I might add. His stamp of approval would’ve worked for me too haha.


So I agree with above, it’s an adjust your expectations thing. I now expect she will do whatever she wants without consulting anyone and voila, no surprises lol. Spend all your excitement energy on people who share it. ❤️

Thank everyone for your kind words and Encouragement!

No one will ever be as excited about your wedding as you are. That being said, people tend to get more excited closer to the wedding date. You still have a long time before your wedding, so there really is not much for others to get excited about at this point.