Prior to me getting engaged, my mum and I were best friends. Since I’ve gotten engaged she’s become super overbearing with the wedding. I like and want things a certain way and she just happens to want everything I DONT want in terms of colours, decorations, flowers etc. Everything we like is opposite to each other and me and my fiancé have discussed already what we want and have agreed on it.
She pretty much wants to decorate the entire church. (She’s not a decorator at all but says she wants to have a go...) I showed her multiple times what I want and she keeps showing me her ideas (which is completely the opposite). When I told her I want it a certain way, she got angry and yelled at me and called me self-centred and I’m taking away her happiness for not letting her do what she wants. The cake she wanted (fondant) was also completely opposite to what we wanted (naked) and she got offended/angry at me for that too. She’s also upset that FH has specified what store to buy suits at (my brother is a groomsmen) saying, I can’t believe you’re forcing the SUITS your brother is wearing too. Etc
Everything and anything I say she says is completely disrespecting her and her wishes and from this moment on she’s given up on me and needs space. She also said she’s just my mother and for me to not treat her as a friend anymore. Just really really hurtful words & still just the tip of the iceberg. I’ve cried and apologised and said sorry if what I say comes out wrong etc but she won’t have any of it and insists I’m the most self-centred person and worse than my sister (who had a 2-month shot gun wedding & who didn’t even include my family in photos)
Me and FH are paying for the wedding, his family gave us $20K solely for the wedding and don’t care what we do or how we do it. My parents have been helping here and there but my mum especially expects me to do whatever she wants. She had it out with me the other day saying “this wedding is not just about YOU. Stop being self-centred. It’s about FAMILY TOO” and I don’t know what to do.
Just really depressed. Can’t stop crying. 54 days until I finally move out and but my relationship with my mother is the worse it’s ever been and I don’t see it getting any better because it’s been this long..
Would appreciate any advice...
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