Feeling bummed...

Well I guess I would ask you this. What exactly are you expecting from them? Realistically I think it's just that people are not going to want to always discuss your wedding. I could be wrong but it could also be because the fact that it is your second marriage. Not that that is not important but for them maybe it's not as exciting or could just be one people get older their lives change. In my twenties going to weddings with such a fun thing but now the thirties I love going to them but I don't get as excited as I did in my twenties. Also if you want a girl's night I say just put out a few dates and invite the ladies. But I think if you are expecting them to have all these things planned well then that's where you could be disappointed unless you communicated that you'd like to have a shower or bachelorette party or something like that. Personally the only people that should be excited for your day are you and your fiance and I don't really feel like there's anything that you should have to do to get other people excited. I'm always happy for my friends and they get married but truth be told I would have one discuss their wedding the whole time and even now that the shoe was on the other foot I don't talk about my plans with them all the time either because they have their own lives and I also try to make sure that I'm there to hear their problems or discuss their lives with them too. Sorry that's not what you want to hear but that's just my two cents.

Hey there!
I'm a first time bride at 53!
I can tell you honestly, that there has been little to no mention of the wedding, unless I bring it up.
It boils down to, there is no one that is as excited for us as we are,because we are living it and they are not.
We are immersed in all things wedding, others are just dealing with the hetic day to day things in life and that's ok.
My wedding, is in June, and I'm sure as the time approaches the focus will change to the wedding.
If not, that's ok. I'm excited enough for everyone!Congratulations! I'm excited for you! I totally understand! Hugs to you!

I’m not sure if you’ve read other posts on this topic, but sadly, this happens a lot. The truth is nobody is as excited about our wedding as we are. Some aren’t even interested at all. Look to your fiancé as your biggest support.


Have you asked your friends to do a bridal dress shopping trip with you? Maybe going for lunch or coffee after, and talking about the dresses you just tried on, might give you that day of excitement with friends you’re looking for.

I should have been clearer - I mean I can't even get answers to questions about their attire for the wedding. And, we're to the ordering dresses part. It's not just gushing over centerpieces. I'm literally asking, "Hey, do you guys want your jewelry to be my gift to you - or would you like to choose your own" or "Hey, I was thinking rose gold jewelry, but do you guys prefer silver?" I can't get those answers. I told them to each pick their own dress. Two got their dresses for under $35.00 on clearance. I'm fine with that - and the dresses are stunning - we hit the change of season and David's had dresses that worked... But, to not answer a direct question is frustrating - I think I'm seeing their replies to simple questions like these as disinterested...

What do you think?

I got divorced, raised our youngest daughter alone, and was on my own for 16 years before I met the man of my dreams and got engaged. My family (sisters, father. Not my kids) could have cared less. When we all went to dinner the night before the wedding, no one even offered a toast to us. So I’m not sure if it was because I was older and it was our second marriage. It was pretty hurtful but in the end I just accepted it and refused to let them darken my joy. Do you have at least one friend you can confide in, who could share your joy with you?

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Not at the moment... I think that is why I chose to ask for help. And the weird thing was that everyone was so excited in the beginning. Maybe it's that I don't need much help - and they just haven't connected all of the dots? How long would you give them to answer direct questions? Or should I just move forward without their input? Sigh. I could use a friend right now...

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Well I think the gift should be your surprise. If you want it to be jewelry then go for it or let it be a spa box. If you want them to have a certain look then I would do jewelry. Anytime a bride has given me jewelry it went with the look for the day and my opinion was never asked. I get the frustrating part of not answering a question but do not take it as they do not care. Most people do not get excited over a wedding until the day of. I would get them a gift you like for them and if they do not like well they never answered lol. It does not mean people do not care about your day. I would maybe get with your MOH in person and set a weekend for bachelorette things and maybe announce to the ladies when this is happening. What do you think?

View Quoted Comment Maybe it’s just the timing right now. In the beginning everyone’s excited. Right before the wedding everyone gets excited again. But at six months, maybe they’re all thinking they’ve got time?


I also think that the days of bridesmaids helping with a lot of the planning are over for most because everyone works, and we’re all spread out.
Is it possible for you to plan a girls night out, not wedding related to try to reconnect with some people? Don’t get discouraged. Just focus on your excitement with your fiancé.