Feeling bummed out about my wedding cause of my family

I'm sorry you feel this way. Do you have something else to focus on besides wedding planning so you aren't feeling the negative energy as much? We are having a decent size wedding & have support, but really did most the planning ourselves. I would try to delegate to your fiance and share in the planning as much as you can together.

View Quoted Comment I wish I did, unfortunately I live in a place with very few options for distractions. I also have a groom that tells me “whatever makes you happy baby” and works a lot. I’m just hoping I can handle this kind of stress with my epilepsy.

Aw, i'm sorry.

i know i felt a little bummed when i didn't think his parents were that excited so i can only imagine how you must be feeling right now.

is there any way you can make wedding planning fun? i feel like that was always something i tried doing because i know it can get stressful. it's like turning something from a chore to an activity. for instance, if you are doing anything yourself in terms of decor or favors, you can have fun with it by making it a little date night to do together with your groom or have a crafting day with some friends.

For the actual planning of the wedding, its honestly best if you and your fiance are the only ones planning. You can read through a lot of wedding wire posts and find that its not the bridesmaids/MOH job to help plan, and they tend to not want to help, and the main source of MANY bride's stress is family member's opinions. I actually recommend that brides don't share much of their wedding plans with others because it will welcome unwanted/hurtful opinions.

For the actual wedding, I'm sure you're turn out will be fine! I feel that it helps to send save the dates so that guests can actually try to keep their schedule free. 2-3 months before the wedding (when invites tend to go out) guests might already have vacations or other things planned. We sent Save the Dates 11 months out and most of my husband's family actually came and they typically never come to anything we invite them to because they are always have other plans.

Overall, try not to stress too much. The turnout wasn't as good as we wanted it to be for our wedding, which was a little upsetting, but we had an amazing wedding, it was way better than I thought it would be! So hang in there you might be pleasantly surprised

I just got a call from my father telling me that he doesn’t want to come to his only daughters wedding!!! Dear god, my wedding just keeps getting better!!😢

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That's awful! I'm so sorry you're going through this - nobody deserves this. Try your best to surround yourself with people who genuinely care!

I understand that families aren’t responsible for helping us plan, and nobody is as excited about our wedding as we are, but such a lack of interest or excitement is a bit odd. Can you talk to your family about your feelings and ask them how they feel about your wedding/marriage?

If this is just how they are, and now your dad won’t be there, maybe rethink your wedding vision. My hubby & I have only a few family members but if my mom wasn’t happy/refused to come, we would have planned a different kind of wedding or eloped.

But know WE are excited for you! Whatever you decide, come share your ideas & pics here. We’ll giggle, and ooh & aah with you. ❤️

View Quoted Comment It’s nice to know I can have some comfort🙂, my family seemed more excited to talk about a wedding instead of actually having one. Thankfully my mom is coming.

I’m so sorry to hear this! I completely understand how you feel. I started being more active on this site for the same reason that it felt like I was alone in wedding planning. Just know everyone on here is always here to help, give advice, or to just share joy in your wedding with you! 💛

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Do you mind if I ask what his reasoning for this is? I'm so sorry I know that must be hurtful. Try to focus on the life you have for yourself. You & your guy have made a life all on your own & that's really what this is about, it's obviously nice to have family involved but it's not about them. FH & I really haven't included anyone - I'm lucky my mom & best friend are there to lend an ear when I want to talk about it but I barely even have any family that will be coming

View Quoted Comment It’s a long story that unfortunately has ended with him choosing to fade me from his life for his new life with my stepmothers family. Luckily my FH is such a wonderful caring man that he always knows when to comfort me when I’m feeling down. I just don’t have any girlfriends to talk with besides my mom even though she has great advice. But sometimes I just need a friend that isn’t blood related. You feel me ladies?

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Sadly this same thing happened to my childhood best friend & its very sad. Honestly I have used WeddingWire Forum for SOOO much because truly no one else can understand besides other people going through it so don't hesitate to bring any questions or ideas or excitement or rants to the page because we're all here for you!

I really didn’t think he would be this hurtful to me. I keep thinking to myself how my FH is gonna have 3 people standing with him and I have no one. I’m also having trouble getting addresses from everyone. Everyone is just reading the messages then ignoring them. It’s really starting to get to me!😞

If I was in your shoes I would do a destination wedding with just me and my fiance (and the parents who want to come). When you return you could have a small celebration (maybe a nice dinner or small backyard bbq) with the people who want to celebrate with you. Use the money for the wedding to have a good time with your soon to be husband. I know it must be heartbreaking that your family is not supportive but just do what you can to keep happy and excited about this new journey in your life. Sending you hugs and well wishes.

Take heart. After you marry, the wonderful family and friends your groom has, will become your family, and , I hope, your friends. Clearly an improvement over the present. I do not know if in the past you have hosted other couples, not just FI's friends, but their girlfriends or SO too. An actual dinner party at home, even for 6-8, does not have to be fancy or formal. Even if you follow with just talk, or cards, something sociable. Or invite neighbors you barely know. I live in a sparsely populated rural mountain area. N NH. Hubby comes from Brooklyn, where I think he was related to a thousand people, or went to school or worked with them. Living in a place with few "things to do" is hard, especially when away from family. Look at listings of clubs and groups in your area. Take a class in something at an adult education program, even a craft, or how to make curtains, a quilt, make jewelry. Meeting even 2 people you discover common interests with is a start. Real people, not online. I have been a fish out of water before. It is miserable. But making just a few friends outside your marriage, and getting to know FI's SO of friends would be a start.

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I am so sorry to hear this. I am kind of in the same place. I feel so stressed, I wish we had just took the money & went on a honeymoon with it. We both were married for 20 years and I was married at the courthouse the first time & his wedding was a disaster, so I really wanted to make special memories with him. I have tried to make myself believe that I have to just be happy with the people who decide to show up. They are the ones who mean the most in the end. My husbands only son (we got married in February, lol, wedding ceremony & reception July 6th) is not coming because he said he will be out of the country. I do not believe it. He had months to work things out. This can't be done again, no do overs. And there are a few others like this. My husband is the sweetest man ever & he says as long as he & I are there....that's all that matters. The pictures with your husband, the cake, etc, you will have forever. I hope it gets better. ((((hugs))))

Well you have us! Just know that those that love you will be there to share your day.
Family isn't always blood. I'm sure you have plenty of people that consider you a friend. Sometimes you just have to reach out to them. Does your fiancee have sisters or cousins that you can get to know?
Are you in school? Or have coworkers you can get to know?
Don't give up it will work out you will see! We all feel alone sometimes
I'm doing all the planning on my own and I love it!
Hang in there!