Feeling bummed......Am I being selfish?

The point of showers are to "shower" the bride with gifts! You're supposed to include registry info on them!

Don't worry, people are very last minute..including when they buy gifts. We invited 80 to my shower, and 20 RSVPed... wouldn't you know it, like 66 showed up because everyone RSVPed like the day before the shower.

Try not to stress, everything will be fine!

Has she contacted those invited that did not RSVP?

A lot of people (so my mother says) will look at your registry and perhaps find the item at a store they shop at more or for a cheaper price tag online. There were only 2 gifts bought from my registry before my BS, and guess what? I got more than that for my shower. Some people might opt to give you cash/checks/gift cards as well!

Don't stress about it. It's not about the gifts, it's about having the people closest to you there to celebrate your upcoming wedding and the experience of that will outweigh anything else.

Hope your shower rocks!

When it comes to shower gifts, I'm a last minute shopper, personally. Either buy the day before while I am out and about or sometimes on the way to the shower! We are just coming off a holiday weekend, and thats what most people have focused on for the past few weeks, not a shower (sorry!), suggest to your sister that she starts calling people this week to confirm their attendance...it will make the day much easier on her (as the hostess) and you!

I kept stalking my registry and it said only 1 gift was purchased for weeks! A day or two before the shower, gifts started being purchased! Try not to worry about it. Maybe check the registry closer to the weekend.

Just saying, im the QUEEN of buying a gift on my way to a shower lol ive never bought one in advance.

Thanks ladies! I haven't expressed these feelings out loud to anyone for fear of sounding too selfish. My sister/MOH did ask me if she should call the non-RSVPers this week. I didn't know if that was considered rude or not. I wouldn't think it was rude if someone called me but I still wasn't sure.

When it comes to an event, ANY event, that requests an RSVP (usually by a certain time, too), it within perfect right and etiquette of the host to ask those who have not responded whether or not they will be attending. For her sake, I would suggest she start calling today to give herself time to get the shower together for the final count of people!

She definitely needs to call those people! Also, totally not rude to include registry info on your bridal SHOWER invitation. The whole point of a shower is to shower the bride with gifts. And don't worry about gifts not being purchased off of your registry yet. I think I only had a couple purchased in the weeks before the shower but on the day of, nearly everyone who came brought a gift off of my registry along with a couple off-registry gifts and some gift cards.

I wouldn't worry about the registry too much... I will admit that I am NOTORIOUS for buying shower gifts late! They still have a week! Ans I agree-- get your sister to call those that haven't RSVP'd! I bet many are planning on coming anyway!

And let us know what happens!

@Maltese is correct ... ANY event requiring an RSVP should also expect a follow up call/email/contact if they haven't RSVPed. And, 4-5 days before the event is MORE than acceptable to be making those calls/contacts. It's incredibly rude of people NOT to RSVP for an email early enough to allow the hostess to prepare. So, she's totally in her right to be making calls right now. Today. Immediately. Tell her to do it.

As for the gifts, I went through the same thing as you and it wasn't until 48 hours before that things started to pick up (I'm a registry stalker) and the majority didn't show up at all ... they purchased in store and didn't say it was for a registry, purchased off registry, or purchased on the way to the shower ... I found it tacky of myself to check the registry the day of the shower so no idea who bought what the day of.

Point being, relax and enjoy the anticipation of your shower! And tell your hostess to start making calls pronto.

Your MOH should definitely call those who haven't RSVP'd yet. A friend of mine never RSVP'd to my shower and turns out she never got her invitation.

As for the gifts, I noticed the same thing. I checked a few days before the shower and hardly anything was purchased. I did end up getting a lot of the gifts off my registry from last-minute shoppers. But I also got a lot of gift cards.