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EAShearman
Savvy October 2017

Feeling after the wedding

EAShearman, on November 13, 2017 at 5:29 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

I got married on Sunday, October 22. I have felt saddened every single time I think about my wedding. My DOC didn't help like I thought she would, I keep hearing that she did a lot but a lot of little things weren't done. Like example a CD with my song and my Fathers dance song wasn't given to the DJ to play so he played my husband and his mom's song as the bride and Father's dance. Also, I feel like everything was so hectic... We haven't received a lot of compliments about the wedding. :-/ I am just so sad, I wished I could go back and do everything again. It went back so fast and I barely remember a thing, it's like I was in a fog. Does everyone feel this way after their wedding? All the money just gone and wasted. People say I will feel better after I start receiving our professional pictures back. Please tell me I am not alone!

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Latest activity by Fall bride 17 - 2.0, on November 13, 2017 at 10:38 PM
  • Constance
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    Constance ·
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    I mean... there was plenty that didn't happen at my wedding. Little details got overlooked, but no one would have known but me. But, I went into my wedding knowing that the day wasn't going to be perfect. If the DOC didn't fulfill her contract, it's worth talking to her about it. But, if it was little things that weren't necessarily outlined in the contract, I'd let it go. I'm sorry the father-daughter dance didn't go exactly as planned. Getting photos was so exciting for me, so maybe it'll be for you.

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  • Gracie Lou Freebush
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    Gracie Lou Freebush ·
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    I can somewhat relate especially with the DOC. It helped me to specifically think about the happy parts, like being at the alter with DH and dancing with my bridal party. Also looking at pictures of it

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  • Celia Milton
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    Don't be sad; you're married, and in the simplest terms, that's the point! The media, the blogs, the websites, pinterest; all of these influences have raised the imaginary bar so high that I'm amazed anyone gets to a big elaborate wedding day without going completely bonkers. The anticipation is so amazingly high, the expectations so rarified. Almost no human can accomplish what we see in the media, (nor do we need to to have a successful/happy/exciting wedding)

    And the day speeds by; I used to tell my catering clients that when I came to get them to cut the cake they'd be like, "What? Already?" It speeds by.

    Every big fancy party, wedding or not, is really two parties. The one you envisioned and the one that actualy happened. Now, there are some things that universally suck for everyone; the food is cold, the DJ doesn't show up at all, there is a funny smell coming off the lake that no one warned you about (yep, it's happened) but there are inevitably things happening that only you will notice; the wrong song, the wrong color flowers, someone forgot to put the favors out the way you wanted......none of those things will ruin the night for anyone. So don't beat yourself up over it.

    If there are things that just were not done by various vendors, let the dust settle and then deal with it. But don't be sad over your day; I bet it was wonderful.

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  • EAShearman
    Savvy October 2017
    EAShearman ·
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    Thank you all ladies! You're exactly right!

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  • Fall bride 17 - 2.0
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    This is what I needed to hear also, thank you. Our day was full of joy, but also my mom induced some drama(as usual), a bridesmaid was rude and left shortly after dinner, and I feel guilt over not visiting with everyone enough.

    But that day-I married the most wonderful man, and I am thankful every day.

    I also look forward to the pro-pics!

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