Feeling a little disappointed about Rsvps

That's totally understandable. Have fun with the people who do come

Yes, I can see how that would be disappointing. I'm worried that my own numbers will be like that--less than I expected. But look on the bright side, now you'll have more time to spend with the guests who do make it to the wedding! It will still be an awesome party, and the best part? You get to marry your love!! It will still be the most special day for you and FH, no matter who is able to come and witness it.

Yes I am worried about this too. We invited 85ish hoping to end up with at least 60. But honestly if I get 25 declines I’ll be disappointed. One more month til the deadline.

Awe, totally understandable. Like you said, you will make peace with it, and on the day of you will have so fun with the people who are there.

I would be disappointed too! Rest assured your wedding is still going to be spectacular

Awe. It will still be amazing and you get to save some money!! Our coordinator told us that about 60-80% of guests come and it's usually closer to the 60% mark. I would be a little disappointed too.

Our minimum is 130 adults. We invited 246 and are hoping for the min of adults..plus whatever kids come.

Understandable since you invited a reasonably low number. However, that will be more time you can spend with guests and you will save some money.

We invited 181. So far we have 80 attending, 19 declines, and 82 pending. I really wanted a more intimate wedding I have such a large immediate family. About half of our guests are 2+ hours away so I'm thinking we are going to continue to get more declines.

I totally get that - we invited 100 and have 64 attending. We were aiming for 70-80, and expecting 75, but we had several people we were banking on attending say no, and less out of town people coming than expected. There's nothing to do about it now - the most important people will be there, and the overall cost will be cheaper than planned, so that's a plus!

Totally normal and understandable. We invited 163 and received 33 declines. That's not really a lot but 24 of them were people on my side. It's disappointing but the most important folks will be there so it's okay!

We have 65% of our guest coming. Most people are from out of town and will be flying in, so I am grateful for those who are coming. It's normal to feel a pang of disappointment when you see an RSVP with a decline but that feeling goes away and no matter what the day will be perfect.

Don't worry! I promise you will enjoy your day. We invited 225, anticipated 150-175. We ended up with 125. It kind of caught me off guard, not the number as much as who decided not to come. We knew we would get quite a few "no" responses just because more than half our guests had to fly to our wedding and it was in the summer and we have a ton of friends our age getting married. So I was kind of bummed with our final count. But at the wedding, we got to open the bar entirely (vs. just beer & wine open) and spend a little more on flowers. It was still a ton of people & the whole weekend was super fun! I'm so happy more people didn't go, we barely got enough time with our guests as it was.

I totally understand this feeling! We invited 258 and are having 185 with children included. It felt smaller to me, but in the grand scheme of things this is a whole passel of people who will be there to love and support and celebrate on with you! And you're saving some money along the way!

It’s understandable. We’re inviting 75 people, but looking at the list I only expect 50 or so will actually be able to go. It sucks, but hey it saves you money and you’ll have just as much fun with those who are able to go.

Totally understandable! I am feeling the same way. We are inviting 150 guests but I think 80-100 will come because we also want this to be an adult only wedding. Most of our friends have kids so I know it will be a little harder considering our venue is 5 hours away. And I agree to what Erin said.. at least you'll be able to save money for those are not able to go which is true.

I can totally relate. Every no felt like a sting, yet I kept think about what my step sister and my sister in law told me when I asked them both what they would have done differently when they had their wedding.

They both said, "I would have made it more intimate/less people". Both felt like they were running around trying to say hello to everyone etc... that they didn't have time to ENJOY their own wedding reception.

While it may sound stupid, remind yourself WHY you are doing this. You're promising your fiance a lifetime of love and commitment. The only audience that you truly really need is your partner.

Chin up boo.

You've got this.

We got 98 yeses and we invited 147! Honestly I can’t relate though... I felt nothing but relief at every decline 😂 every “no” was $70 back in our pockets! As long as our VIPs were there honestly everyone else who did come was just a bonus! We had an amazing day and you really don’t “feel” the people who are missing when you’re there... you’ll be surrounded by SO much love and so much joy that you won’t feel sad about anyone not being there because you’ll just be so thrilled about who is. Plus with the money we saved, we ended up being able to hire a videographer which we had originally cut from our budget...... I am so glad we did, our video is priceless!!

I'm sorry that you're feeling let down. You
still have a nice size. Enjoy your beautiful day.

Our RSVP deadline is tomorrow and we’re still waiting for 17 responses of the 56 invited. We are expecting about 30 (including us and our photographer). We wanted a really small wedding and it is a destination for most (we live on the other side of the country from my family and 1500+ miles from his). I remember reading posts like this before we sent invites and thinking, “well that’s one less plate to pay for”!

There are people who can’t come that I’m unsurprised / less disappointed by, but the ones who I feel disappointed by are the ones that REALLY want to be here (the friend who helped us go from friends to in a relationship, the family friend who is from the city we live in, and the family member who kept pestering my parents for info so they could make travel plans). I’m pretty surprised at how much their “no’s” have made me feel. I know that it is definitely not a reflection of how much they love us and I know that this is part of having a DW (and partially why we chose to do so). But I totally get it and am trying to remember how fortunate we are to have people willing to travel across the country to celebrate with us. Also, I’m hoping I can reallocate some of the budget to be able to spoil our guests a bit! 😉

Are the no's mostly from friends or family?

I think I would be sad but then again the people who truly matter will be there and you'll have a more intimate wedding it will still be a great day!

I know it’s disappointing, but it’s definitely not personal. You still have a lot of people who want to celebrate with you!!