Feeling a little annoyed with a friend...

This would leave anyone feeling crappy. But this is why I dislike pre-wedding events. They are not required and just because you attended someone's doesn't mean they have to attend yours. I feel for you; I'd feel the same way, but you just have to let it go.

Sounds like you should NOT have went out of your way for her. Don't make that mistake again.

When it is a big life event like this we all hold out hope that those we love will step up the way we did. It sucks but, it will really be just a small blip on the wedding as a whole.

I hear you on that. My cousin got married and it was all wedding talk all the time from the minute she asked me to be a BM until after her honeymoon. Well, she is also in my wedding and if I tell her about something wedding related, I get one word answers. Definitly not what I expected. We haven't had any events for her to back out on yet but if anyone would, it would be her.

Are you having a bachlorette? IS she going to that?

That's happened before, with me. It's like once someone gets married, they have a tendency not to care about the weddings/events that come after theirs.

My family went to my cousin's wedding, a few years before ours. She didn't bother attending either my wedding, or my sister's.

She hasn't said anything whatsoever about your wedding? Like not even an RSVP?

You sound really upset about it but do your best to let it roll off your shoulders. I have a best friend with a similar scenario who for her other friend went to vegas for her bach party and went to her destination wedding. My friend is coming to neither but the bigger picture is our friendship and I don't do tit for tat. Our friendship takes precedence over those feelings of "wth?". Your big day is coming up so focus on all the happiness coming your way!!!

Thanks, everyone! I know I should let it slide and will definitely try to!

@Blair Waldorf - She RSVPed late with a decline. It's fine since I'm having a DW, but I guess I assumed since she wasn't coming to that she'd come to my shower.

@Mrs Sullivan To Be - I kinda had a bachelorette the night of my bridal shower in FL. I am located in TX along with this friend, but am originally from FL. She wasn't invited to the FL shower, but to my TX one.

I'd be upset too :/ It always sucks when you care about someone and put in a lot of effort and then you find out they don't feel the same way about your friendship. I'm sorry

Yup, I have a bridesmaid who told me she can't afford to attend my bachelorette party... but then has bragged about all these expensive and unnecessary purchases (easily $20k worth in 3 months) to me. I've already decided if she ever gets married, I won't be attending any of her festivities, including the ridiculous over the top destination wedding she plans on having.

It's definitely a sucky feeling I understand :/ I was a bridesmaid in a friends wedding a couple years ago...I flew out for her wedding while I was moving halfway across the country and planned that around her date, help plan/pay for a shower for her in another state, bought a 160$ dress, bought a shower gift, bought a VS nightgown for her bachelorette present, and bought a wedding gift. I never got a thank you card. She didn't even RSVP to mine. When I reached out to her I just got a - oh sorry we won't make it.

I know weddings aren't tit for tat but I completely understand being hurt. Sometimes people don't prioritize you like you do for them and it does suck.

I would be annoyed too. Sometimes you learn that about people. You put in all this time for them and then they won't do the same. I just definitely wouldn't go out of my way for her anymore

Unfortunately, some people are like that.

I went to my childhood friends wedding.. I went out of my way to be there. at that time I was working In retail and my former boss would not let me take 4 days off to fly out to another country (12 hour flight with one lay over) she said that if worked 10 days straight, she would let me take the days. Basically I worked 10 days straight, flew out across the world to be at my childhood friends wedding, yada, yada, yada...

fast forward - she now lives in the US and when I invited her to my upcoming wedding in October, she said there's a chance she may not show up...

I went through so much just to be next to her, and she cant come to mine because shes worried her child will cry and bother my guests ( I told her not to even worry about her child crying... I want her there... children cry, and I totally understand it)

bottom line is, if she really wants to come, she will come... if not, oh well. nonetheless, I love her dearly, but till be upsetting.