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Courtney
Super May 2012

Feel alone in the planning

Courtney, on February 21, 2011 at 10:12 PM Posted in Planning 0 15

I am so excited to marry my amazing fiance, but I feel like none of my friends care, one of my best friends is getting married also and I'm always asking her how things are going and noone asks me how things are going of course my mom does and my fiance helps, but the girls tht are going to be my bridesmaids never seem to think I'd like thier support or help/advice or would like to talk about how excited I am Smiley sad

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Latest activity by Mrs♥In♥September, on February 22, 2011 at 2:10 PM
  • Hayley C™
    Master March 2008
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    Hi Courtney! Welcome to wedding wire!

    A lot of brides feel that way. That is why everyone loves WW. This is a great place to come and share your excitement, bounce off ideas, brainstorm, Vent, etc.

    We have a lot of great ladies that share in your excitement and can't wait to hear all your plans and ideas! Don't worry, your friends will get excited when you are closer to the wedding day, when they can plan the parties, and go dress shopping.

    Until then, come here any time. We love to talk!

    Congrats!

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    Honestly, what you are experiencing is normal. First, no one will ever be as excited about your wedding as you are. Second, some people may care about you, but just not be into weddings. And third, even those who may be interested in your wedding will tend not to get as excited when it is as far out as it is.

    My suggestion would be to come here to find others who will be excited, and don't expect too much of your BMs.

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  • Kathy
    Master July 2010
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    Truly, no one will be as excited about your wedding as you are. Also, your wedding is over a year away. So, people will be less likely to be excited until you get closer to the date.

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  • Karen
    VIP August 2011
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    My bridal party consists of my oldest friend (MOH) and she is in another city, my 2 BM are my teenage daughters, and my FG is my 12 year old. Of my daughters, one flat out told me she was bored by all of the wedding details. Talk about bursting my bubble! I appreciate her honesty and plan to remind her how bored I am when she wants to go to the mall. But I digress.... I say, first, welcome to the site! Second, just have fun planning and putting your ideas together. I do understand that it's disappointing to not have cheer team helping you-- I felt the same way but decided I would just have fun doing it on my own.

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  • Maria
    Super July 2011
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    One thing you have to realize is your wedding isn't until May 2012. That's a long way away so some people may feel that it's too soon to really ask a bunch of questions. I believe that as it gets closer and there are actually some more activity around your wedding plans, you'll get more excitement. Then remember, nobody will be more excited about your wedding than you so don't feel bad. People really are happy for you, but it's just not their day so they don't share the exact same joy. One last thing.....believe me, you don't want everybody involved in your wedding planning. That is what causes the most stress because people will start putting their opinions in and then you will have more drama that you want. Enjoy the ability to do your own planning for a while. You'll welcome it later. Smile!

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  • Mrs♥In♥September
    Master September 2011
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    Welcome Courtney! And I understand how you feel. I feel the same way. My Moh never brings up the wedding and when I mention something about it her answer is 'oh that's nice'. I do understand that no one will be as excited but every little thing that happens to her she makes this huge deal of and I"m always so happy for her and always so excited. I don't know how it will be when she gets married, she's a bit self centered. But I don't let her or anyone take away from my planning and from marrying the man I love. Being on WW has been so helpful and its wonderful to meet ladies who maybe thinking the same thing you are.

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  • Courtney
    Super May 2012
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    Thank you all it does all help and I know its a ways away (trust me I know haha) but the thing is I have it almost completely planned and I wanna share my ideas with my BMs...but I am very excited about this site and will most likely be here often, thank you so much everyone Smiley smile

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  • Spunky kraut
    Expert July 2011
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    You came to the right place. We'll all be excited for you every step of the way in the planning process because we're right there with you going through the same steps. I felt the same as you a year ago and it's true what everyone is saying...as your date gets closer and closer you'll see others' excitement grow. It's not in their mind every day like it is in ours. This is our baby.

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  • Courtney
    Super May 2012
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    True true Smiley smile thank you all again

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  • Mrs♥In♥September
    Master September 2011
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    @Spunky kraut - very well said!!

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  • erin
    Expert October 2011
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    I feel that way sometimes too and I think a lot of girls do...but lucky for you we are all just as excited and will talk about weddings all day long!

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  • Spunky kraut
    Expert July 2011
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    Thanks Mrs In September! Smiley smile

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  • Sara
    Devoted May 2011
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    I felt the same way until the new year and all of a sudden everyone wanted to know details and stuff. Which was five months out for me at the time. I think it has a lot to do with the length of time between now and the wedding date. All of a sudden when the year matched my wedding dates year people started to chime in. Give it time and all will be fine :-)

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  • Betsy
    Super July 2011
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    I feel the same, my wedding is 4 months away and I am overwelmed with the things I need to do. Thank GOD my mother and one of my BM's are super excited and wants to talk about it just as much as I do. For me, everyone is just too busy. Even my husband! He is working on getting out of the Marine Corps and just came home from a 7 month deployment, so even he is too busy to talk wedding talk for hours. Smiley sad I say as long as you have one person to be excited and talk about it with, then thats good!

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  • Mrs♥In♥September
    Master September 2011
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    My mom is super excited. She is in Iraq right now so everything is through email and I wish I could pick up the phone and say I just got this for the wedding. I had been trying to put off dress shopping to wait for her but she won't be back until july and the wedding is in august. So she has helped with that part, of being excited with me. Although it would be nice if someone around me on my side of the family was remotely excited. FH and his family are so excited and helpful, so I always keep them updated and well, as long as my mom is excited thats great for me.

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