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Feedback on my wedding dress choice...

Rachel, on November 27, 2020 at 4:55 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 2 21
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Hi, Everyone -


I need some advice! How do you combat the negative feedback on your wedding dress? Even though my Mom and I were the only ones that went to my appointment, I did have a small group of friends that I sent photos of my dress and other dresses I tried on. While the majority of them agreed that my Nelson gown is perfect for me because of the fit, setting, venue, etc., I had a few reply saying that they liked the other gowns better (specifically the Gigi gown) because they looked more fun and like “me”. While I understand where they’re coming from, I know it comes down to what the bride likes and how she feels when she has her gown on. I am trying to block out the feedback in my mind, but it’s cashed a bit of hurt feelings and confusion for me. Did anyone else deal with these emotions? Feedback on my wedding dress choice... 1
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Latest activity by Maggie, on November 30, 2020 at 1:03 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I mean this in the nicest way possible, but it seems like you’re putting way too much weight on your gown choice. Of course it’s important, but I’ve seen at least 15+ posts from you about dresses. Your dress is beautiful and you chose it for a reason. That reason doesn’t go away just because someone else disagrees. You made the best choice for YOU. I would stop showing people your dress until the wedding day.
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  • Belle
    Rockstar August 2022
    Belle ·
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    I showed my dress only to my adult kids, mom, siblings, and a few besties because they asked. One of them did not say anything, and I know she doesn’t like my dress. I ignored her reaction. I can’t make her like my dress, and I am okay if she doesn’t give me any compliment at all. I think ignoring negative feedback is best. Which dress is a taste, and everyone has their own taste 😉
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  • Michelle
    VIP October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    If you love the dress you picked out, that's all that matters. Everyone has their own tastes and you won't be able to please everyone, but at the end of the day, all they are are opinions. But it's not polite to ever tell someone they would have chosen different unless the dress reveals way too much for example.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    My advice is to not show it to anyone else. I have not shown my dress to anyone, not even my own mother because I didn't want to receive any negative comments.
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  • CountryBride
    Expert April 2022
    CountryBride Online ·
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    Hi sweetie

    your gown is gorgeous and focus on what you like about it not everyone is going to like your dress and it's okay, how do you feel about your dress do you feel sexy? do you get excited when looking at the pictures? you focus on what you like about it. and politely say to the people who doesn't like your dress thank you for your opinion and move on . I had questioned my dress choice because I am pregnant and I feel huge and ugly in my dress. however I look at what the dress will look like once I loose my baby belly and I fell in love with it all over again my fiancé is gonna love my dress as yours surely will too, if you want a little more pazzass or sparkle and want to get a belt it can add a bit more sparkle and fun but keeping it what you want

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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I wouldn't take the comments too seriously. As long as YOU like the dress and feel like it's The Dress, that's all that matters! Your friends who preferred a different dress likely have different styles than you - which is OK. But they don't get to decide your dress - only you do. You can't please everyone, so might as well do what you like best. If you're happy and confident in your decision, stick with it! I agree with the previous comments to hold off on showing pictures of your dress to too many people - too many differing opinions can cause doubt.
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  • A
    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    You look and feel beautiful that’s what matters.
    I know how hard it can be, my mom didn’t like the sleeves of my dress. After alterations though she now loves it, and I know when she sees it again in person she will 100000% love it.
    All your friends will too, day of. I’d try to stop thinking about it and just trust yourself. By the time your wedding comes, I will bet you that your friends will have forgotten about any other dress you’ve tried on.
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  • K
    Devoted October 2021
    Kristen ·
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    Sometimes people assume the wedding dress someone picks will match their normal style in some way, but only YOU know how you want to look on your wedding day. Plus your own commentary on the dress is that you expected to go a little less traditional and likely with sleeves, so that probably affected their expectations too. So they were surprised, just brush it off.
    Pictures (especially with store fluorescent lighting) only capture part of the look and feel, you and your mom fell in love based on the full experience, that means a lot more ☺️
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    As long as you love it that's all that matters. And I wouldn't say that those comments are negative because everyone has different opinions on fashion.
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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Here is my honest feedback to you. You need to have strong backbone when asking others opinions. I do not know you personally and how you handle negativity but if you ask for others opinions be ready to hear some not so nice stuff. It does not sound like the comments were hurtful or mean but it seems you took them to heart. Remember that everyone has a different vision of weddings and how they should be or look. Even if you ask opinions here in these forums you are going to probably get feedback you do not want to hear. I would suggest maybe limiting opinions if the negative ones are going to be hurtful. I had to limit sharing things with one friend because her feedback was negative and I decided I do not need that for such a happy day. I think ultimately you need to go with what makes you happy because the wedding day is about you two and how you two feel.

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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    My suggestion is to not show anyone else your dress, and definitely not any of the dresses you didn’t choose. I haven’t shown anyone my dress aside from my mom (who was with me when I picked it out) and my best friend, and have had no issues. You love your dress & there’s no need for anyone else to! I’m sure if I showed people the dresses I tried on & didn’t select, a lot of people would like some of the others better. But that doesn’t matter- they’re not the ones wearing it & they don’t need to love it. Only the bride does!
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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar January 2022
    Jasmine ·
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    People's choices and tastes change all the time. Even though another dress might have been you visually, doesn't mean you feel like you once you put it on. I still think it's a pretty dress on you and if it's the one that gave you all the feels, then you ride with it. If anyone starts talking negatively about it, just do your best to ignore them. Hell, sing a song in your head if you have to. It's not their day and they shouldn't be worried about what looks like you. They should be happy that you're happy.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Everyone has diff styles so they may not have had a preference for what you chose but that doesn’t mean they don’t think yours isn’t pretty. I think that’s what you gotta remember - that they still think yours is pretty but that they just due to their own style, have other preferences. When my bff tried on dresses I def had a favorite on her aha and she chose another one instead. Doesn’t mean I didn’t like her chose one though.
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  • Ty
    Devoted July 2021
    Ty ·
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    I’m not showing my dress to anyone. For this same reason, everyone will see it on the wedding day.


    Just tune it out, everyone had a different Opinion so you’ll always have different feedback.
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  • Katie
    Expert January 2021
    Katie ·
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    I really would stop focusing on what others think and refrain from discussing and sharing your dress. Based on how frequently you discuss the dress on this forum, it’s clearly all occupying in your mind. If you put it out there, people are going to have negative things to say. Keep some things to yourself.
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  • Alma
    Expert October 2020
    Alma ·
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    My very honest feedback is: you got your dress (which I know based on your forums, you’ve been putting a lot of energy into)...now time to focus on something else! Stop showing people your dress and surprise them on the day of Smiley smile you’re the one who will be wearing it, not them!
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I would stop showing people your dress if negative comments are going to affect you. It is your dress for your wedding. As long as you are happy, no one else’s opinion really matters.

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  • T
    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    Picking my dress out of the final 4 or 5 was an absolute ordeal to the point where it wasn't fun anymore. I didn't have anyone say they didn't like the dress I picked, but I did have a couple people indicate they really liked a gown that was never a contender.


    Once my dress came in, with a minor customization I had done, no one could have told me there was a better dress for me. I was/am so confident that this was the perfect dress that there was no telling me otherwise.
    Do YOU feel confident in your choice? Do you normally place emphasis on the opinions of others?
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  • Rachel
    Super June 2022
    Rachel ·
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    Hi there, I definitely feel confident in my dress for sure. I didn’t think it would look as great on as it did on the hanger, so I was truly shocked. Also, the silhouette I ended up with was one I was looking at way back when but filed away because I didn’t think it would look great. I was pleasantly surprised! As for the opinions of others, I try not to feed into them too much because it doesn’t get me anywhere. I think I am just one of those brides that was convinced I would go with something else entirely different from what I did choose, so that’s what’s tripping me up a little. This dress isn’t as “out there” as the ones I had been posting about before, but when I put my dress on, I loved it so much!
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  • Rea
    Devoted November 2017
    Rea ·
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    I agree with the majority, you do you besides at the end of the day, you are wearing it, you are paying for it. If you are waiting a 100 percent positive feedback, that will never happen. Individuals are individuals and with comes their own opinions, ideas and thoughts. I too have followed your post and personally I think you look absolutely lovely in every single dress you have posted. Yes the dress is one of the utmost importance to the bride, but so are other areas of your planning. Give some of that energy to what you feel your FH would like to see you in and how you want him to look in his tux/suit/attire. Imho the look you want to achieve is how you feel and how he will feel when he sees you once the doors/curtains open. The biggest let down could come from selecting a dress decided on "likes" and opinions from other people and getting zero response on the day of...that would be crushing. Do YOU! Lovingly I encourage you try not to exhaust yourself with just the one aspect of your wedding...save your glow to spread it over all planning and best wishes in and around your planning 🥰
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