Fear of being the center of attention

I’m a huge introvert and my guest list is 200+ ...I get married in two days and I honestly am feeling ok. 10 days ago I felt like you are feeling but now that it’s so close, I’m excited to see my family, I’m so busy with last minute things and I’m remembering the getting married part of the wedding which I’m so excited about. So those things are really helping. Ride the roller coaster girl, you’ll be fine! Also I’m going to have just one small whiskey drink before I face all those faces 😜

Omg a thousand times yes! I am getting married tomorrow with over 150 guest and I can't stand the thought of being center of attention.

I also don’t like speaking in public and am nervous about being the center of attention. But when I think about it, you already know and love the people that are there. And they love you and just want to celebrate with you. For me, knowing that it’s in front of people I know calms me down

I'm 100% going to have a total meltdown a few days before our wedding for this same reason. I don't like any family gatherings, better yet when I'm supposed to be the center of attention. I've found that a cocktail or two helps me a huge amount, so I'll probably do that. After the wedding, I'll be a recluse for months to recover.

Same! I hate public speaking and have high anxiety. I’m trying to focus on our details at this point which is distracting me from the fact that we are reading our own vows in front of our 120 guests 😳 I plan on focusing on FH the day of the wedding, like you said, especially at the ceremony! I’m hoping I can make it feel like just us and the officiant so I’m not so terrified that I can’t speak. I’m not taking medication for anxiety anymore so I’m not relying on that either.
We’re having a first look, which people have said helped to calm their nerves. I don’t think I would be ok if I went the whole day without seeing FH then seeing him as I walk down the aisle!

Hey Cassandra!

I'm very sorry that you're feeling this way. I completely understand where you're coming from as I also hate being the center of attention.

Are you two doing a first look? A lot of other community members say that doing a first look helped them with their anxiety/nerves before walking down the aisle. They said that it helped to have their FS there to calm them down and that it was nice to have a private moment together before walking down the aisle! They also said it took some of the pressure off of them to make a "grand entrance".

Another idea could be doing a letter to each other before the ceremony! It might help ease your worries to see a letter from your FS and have his/her words in your head before walking down the aisle!

I also hate being the center of attention. I'm learning to embrace it for one day. It's still tough lol. We are doing a first look to get some of the jitters out - between myself, my FH, and my dad, the nerves are high! We also made sure to include a lot of elements to make sure the GUESTS have a great time - by focusing on them we've forgotten to "worry" about ourselves. In a good way. I also (somewhat purposely) put the flower girl and ring bearer in AMAZING outfits! People are all "oh man, they're going to steal the show!" And I'm low key excited about that. Ha. I'll also plan to have a glass or two of champagne before the ceremony to calm myself a little bit

Me!!! I had this same problem. I was seriously concerned I'd be shaking and brought red all the way down the aisle. Not sure what happened, but I ended up not being nervous once my dad and I hit the aisle. It was a good feeling. So then I was worried about the dances with everyone watching which got a bit awkward in my mind, but they were fine and the DJ cut all dances off at 2 minutes, so it flew by. Everything was fine. Best if luck. It doesn't hurt to drink a few mimosas beforehand either!

I am the exact same way. I hate being the center of attention! My wedding was this past Saturday, I was fine the morning off but once it got closer to the time to walk down I started getting nervous and scared. But once I started walking all I could think about was marring my best friend and I just looked at him the whole time I walked down. Just take deep breaths, maybe drink some calming tea in the morning. I think you’ll be just fine! Best of luck and congrats!

I am just like this. Wedding is in two days and it really hit me at my bridal shower when everyone KEPT JUST LOOKING AT ME AND I WAS LIKE OMG STOP but then I remembered we were all gathered there literally for me and it was a really tough thing. I have no advice, only solidarity. Hopefully it’ll be fine? 🤷🏻‍♀️