fb save the date help

Facebook events are great for lots of things; house parties, birthday dinners, maybe a girl's night out. Not a wedding invitation. If budget is the biggest concern, just skip save the dates all together.

I would advise against a FB group as well. Can you just private message people for their emails and then send an email STD to everyone? You can do one per household and just make sure you write "Hello So and So" to indicate who is invited.

I wouldn't do a FB event at all. People don't take them seriously. Believe me, my bridesmaids tried using it for my bridal shower and most people ignored it. It's totally fine to just skip save the dates altogether and just do invites later.

For electronic invites I’d use paperless post or evite. But honestly you could just skip the STD.

I created a Facebook message thread to get my relative’s email addresses and people started spamming the group within a day or two. I’d avoid Facebook and use paperless post or evite. Its a magnet for nonsense.

I would advise against Facebook, as it is too casual for a wedding. I think appy couple may be a good option. You could do your save the dates and the wedding invitations through them for only $49. I just posted a review about them in the forum.

I am skipping save the dates. Me and my fiance have started contacting people to give them a heads up. We're trying to save some money too.

Save the dates did not exist until, 15 years ago, and are not necessary now. Send individual emails, not group, or call on the phone. Or write a letter. Informal. Only send the information to anyone who needs the advance notice, for transportation that could not be arranged 6-8 weeks before the wedding, or for other special needs, plus to key family. Just names, date, time ( morning, afternoon or evening will do), location. Anything else is fine. Do not say anything like, no kids. But if true, you can chat a bit and say, we are so excited to be planning a very formal adult oriented affair, with a cocktail hour, dinner, and dancing, something neither of us has done before! Pretty clear hint. And name who is invited, exactly. Just parents names if no kids. Parents, and older children leaving out younger if that applies. Or list everybody. Give your phone, or email, for any questions, and if you have a website, use it. And note it in an email for layer reference. You can put on Facebook in a way where no one sees it but them, or else do not use Facebook. This would be in addition to a phone or email, not instead. Do not have people able to check the whole list. And never have those not invited, able to see it on Facebook.

I disagree - save the dates are really useful because it gives people an official document to go back to.

I f you just mention it casually, they might forget or it will get lost in text messages. If you need to do it on the cheap, use an evite or online vendor. Its also helpful to have an official list of who you sent the STD to and not have to keep track in your mind of who you talked to. I included my wedding website on there as well.

I didn’t get it before, but now I am firmly TeamSaveTheDate!

Thanks everyone for your helpful comments!! I am strongly leaning away from using FB and am looking into an online vendor that will let me send 300+ out for super cheap. Otherwise I may just be sending personal messages to people just to give them a heads up with a link to our website and use that message as a way to verify their address.
I appreciate all the feedback, it was extremely helpful!