Favors & Signage: Should i do Mr and Mrs or our first names?

It is really up to you how you want to do it! My husband and I used "Grace & Pablo" on our signs and just had the DJ announce us as "Mr & Mrs. ---".

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Yes, it's up to me so that's why I want outside input, because I'm undecided. And fiancé probably doesn't care lol.

I guess it’s all personal opinion. I’m having Mr & Mrs (new last name) put on everything and that’s how we’ll Be announced even though it will be weird with his parents obviously also being that. Interestingly our wedding anniversary will only be like 2 weeks before theirs lol. But if just putting your first names feels more you then go for it! I’m not sure why you need to clarify whose wedding it is when everyone knows what couples wedding they’re attending?

View Quoted Comment I would probably confirm with him first on whether or not he has an opinion. Even if you don't think he'll care, he might.


Also, since you said you don't identify yourself as Mrs. Smith, I'd probably go with 1st names.

View Quoted Comment I did not mean during the wedding. I was thinking that if I send them home with a wedding favor that says mr and mrs it won’t be clear that it’s me. I’m being weird about it because I’m not planning on changing my last name. But like I said initially there’s some sort of romantic thing about being “mrs”.


This is helpful though. Thanks

I like Lorna & Adam! Your names are very cute together ❤️ I agree, Smith is a common last name. Having both your first names makes it very clear!

View Quoted Comment To be honest, most people throw out favors that are branded with other people's names (or just don't take them to begin with), so that's not really a concern.


Also, if you aren't planning on changing your last name, you technically aren't going to be Mrs. Smith at any point, so I probably wouldn't brand things with that since that won't be you.

View Quoted Comment OH. My bad. I misunderstood

View Quoted Comment I don’t see why she can’t? My mom just officially changed her last name after 15 years married. She unofficially hyphenated her last name for years. She can still call herself “Mrs smith” even if legally her name is not

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Well, she stated in her original post that she doesn't identify as Smith, so it would be a little odd to brand a bunch of stuff with a name you don't identify with, emotionally or legally 🤷‍♀️. Ultimately, it's whatever. But she said she's undecided and asked for opinions. My opinion is it makes more sense to go with a name that you actually identify with rather than one that you don't have any intention of using.

U could do the first names or u could go with Mr and Mrs Adam Smith. I'm going to b doing something like that for mine next year. My fiance last name is hand and my last name is akens so yea I understand.

View Quoted Comment All of you have good points. Even though I wouldn’t be changing my name legally American families go by the husband’s last name. Having said that I am leaning towards our first names because it will feel more personal.


I wanted to hear different opinions before I decide to order anything. Thinking that people would throw it out makes me sad though. I hope that’s not the case.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, Ayanna!

For the cake topper just do MR. &MRS.and

And for the favors have your names one those and since he doesn't mind then ho with that

I'd do your first names. Mr. and Mrs. Smith sounds really formal for a favor or a cake topper.

I made all of these signs for our wedding and used Our names instead of Mr and Mrs… Our cake topper does say Mr+Mrs Dodson though 🤗

I like just your first names better, especially because you're not taking Smith as your last name. I'm not taking my FH's last name either. Maybe you could even do "Smith and Perez" or "Perez and Smith" (can't figure out how to do the accent).