So for favors, we want to do custom mason jars with a mini bottle... drinks to go sorta thing. Now since we already buying in bulk, should we plan for 1 per person (obviously our under 21 kiddos would get candy or something) or 1 per household/ couple?
Then what about the kiddos and like my friends / bridal party who have plus 1’s?
Latest activity by Brianna, on May 16, 2021 at 7:46 PM
Hello Brianna. It's totally fine to give one favor per couple or per household. There's no hard and fast rules on this. My partner and I decided not to do favors but had we decided to do them, we would have made one per household, for sure.
I think you should treat you wedding party members differently (assuming you picked them because you wanted to ask them to be in it, not because you felt pressured by other people to include them).
You can do one per household, but I have to agree with PPs. Favors are typically best when they're something edible and small. I can't tell you how many weddings I've been to where the couples' personalized cozies, wine glasses, shot glasses, sunglasses, magnets, etc. were mostly left sitting at tables. Many don't want to take a medium-sized glass/plastic object onto a shuttle or into an Uber/cab to go back to a hotel (provided you're having an evening wedding that ends on the later side).
Additionally, I'm a big fan of take-away wedding objects (bridesmaid/groomsmen gifts, wedding favors, etc.) that don't have specific references to the couple or the wedding date. People are far more likely to take home a free object if they know they can repurpose it and use it for grad parties, backyard barbecues, and birthdays--and they'll be far more likely to do that if the object doesn't literally scream "this was a favor from a wedding we attended!"
If it's for drinking at or after the wedding, I would say 1 per person honestly. How would you hand out 1 per household? At the weedings I've been to, people just take the favors from a table
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Ah see I agree with that too! I was telling my family I didn’t want to put our names and dates on it for that reason. But they pushed back and said people want to remember... that’s old school Italian talking
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Got it! Yea I seen I’ve seen it before too. Same happened at my sister sweet 16 but all the candy went! My concern is how to give out to each couple. I don’t want to walk around with them all night
Again, this would be great if you were sure they were all going to take them home.
Unfortunately, as someone who works in the wedding industry, I can tell you: your guests are very different people with very different set ups. I wish I had a use for seeds, but I live in an apartment for no balcony and no way to plant seeds efficiently (cats), so when that's the gift, it's wasted on me.
For others, a cute, handled mason jar is wasted on them. That's the biggest problem with favors: you're giving one thing out to a bunch of different people with massively different lifestyles. That's why so many experts advise against favors, unless they;'e something that will "disappear" quickly, which mostly means food. If you're set on doing these, I'd say do them per household so you don't waste (and I mean, WASTE) a bunch of money on them.
I've never seen favors as one per couple, and I could see guests grabbing one per person and then you running out. If you go that route, make sure you have a sign that clearly indicates only one item per couple/household.