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Just Said Yes November 2020

Father/step Father Sticky Situation

Emily, on August 18, 2019 at 3:56 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

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I'm trying to figure out a way to include my stepdad into my wedding. A long time ago I told my mom I wanted him to walk me down the isle with my real dad but recently I asked my dad and he said no. He said that was his special moment. I'm extremely close to my dad so I understand that. But I'm also close to my stepdad. He helped raise me since I was 10. I really want him to have an important role but just dont know how to do that. I dont want my dad to feel disrespected but I want him to be included.

What should I do??

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Latest activity by BecomingBecker, on August 19, 2019 at 11:58 AM

Savvy August 2019
Brandi · on August 18, 2019 at 4:07 PM
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Could he walk down the aisle with your mother?
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Master November 2019
Mrs. S · on August 18, 2019 at 4:07 PM
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I also have a close dad and stepdad who don’t like each other. I will have a reserved ceremony seat for my stepdad in the front row and a boutonnière and his name in the program under parents of the bride. And a parent gift for him at the rehearsal dinner. But I’m not having him walk me or doing a father daughter dance with him, only my biological father.
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Dedicated August 2019
Britani · on August 18, 2019 at 4:44 PM
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Is the aisle long? Could they meet half way down and both walk you from the middle?
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Renee · on August 18, 2019 at 6:27 PM
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Either have them both walk you down the isle or have your dad walk you down and your stepdad get the first d/d dance
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Dedicated October 2019
Lindsay · on August 18, 2019 at 6:37 PM
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I would have your dad walk you down the aisle, and then your stepdad walk your mom down the aisle if you want to avoid confrontation. But it’s your day, if you want both ur dads to walk u down u should do it!
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Jasmine · on August 18, 2019 at 6:45 PM
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I talked to my dad about the same thing. My dad and step dad (former but still big in my life) have no issues with each other but I explained to my dad since he wasn't the one that actually raised me, I think it would make more sense that I ask my former step dad to walk me down the aisle.
I do still want to include my biological dad because we've become close over the years so I had asked him to do the father/daughter dance with me. I'm even letting him choose the song which now I feel like I should be afraid .
Good luck in whichever you decide.
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Savvy October 2019
Haley · on August 18, 2019 at 7:01 PM
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I’m in a similar situation. I want my dad to walk me down the aisle alone, but I’m thinking my step-father can be at the end of the aisle to also give me a kiss before I’m given away.
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Dedicated October 2020
BecomingBecker · on August 19, 2019 at 11:58 AM
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I'm in a VERY similar situation, I am daddy's little girl BUT I'm also very close to my Stepdad (whose also been around since I was 10, we tell people that we're one of each others "Favorite People") I had originally thought about having him walk me to my dad then my dad walk me the rest of the way down the aisle but my stepdad actually said that he wouldn't feel comfortable doing that since it really is an honor that my dad should have. So what I'm doing is 2 father daughter dances, one with my dad and one with my stepdad, both are 100% ok with sharing that spotlight. Maybe this would work for you also?
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