Fatherless

If you have a man that's like a father to you, or a brother, you can dance with them instead and have the song be dedicated in memory of your father. This also goes for walking down the aisle. If not, I think cutting the father/daughter dance out all together would be fine. Also, plenty of brides walk down the aisle by themselves. I can absolutely understand your pain of not having a parent present though, since I lost my mom.

I'm sorry, dear... that has to be a little hard for you. Do you have an older or oldest brother, grandpa, etc who could do the father daughter dance with you? Who are you having walk you down the aisle? Would they be a good choice to do the father daughter dance with?

If you choose to skip it all together I would recommend skipping the mother son dance as well... I think it would make everyone feel a little awkward and uncomfortable if your husband has a dance with his mom and then you don't dance with a father figure. They might feel the need to comfort you or not say anything/avoid you so the topic doesn't come up instead of congratulating you on getting married!

I disagree with Kate--I really don't think it matters if you don't have a dance but still have your fiance dance with his mom. I wouldn't deprive her or him of that moment. Several brides on here have skipped it entirely, it's totally fine to do that.

My father passed away 8 years ago, and I am having my mother walk me down the aisle. I have chosen not to dance with anyone because it just wouldn't feel right to me, but I have heard of brides dancing with their mothers or other male figures in their lives. Also, FH will be dancing with his mother even though I am not doing a parent dance. It wouldn't be right to deny his mother that honor.

So, skipping me dancing with a dad isn't going to be tacky?

Thank you for the advice and ideas. I appreciate them all.

I don't want to make him skip it if he doesn't want to skip it or let it hurt his mothers feelings.

My son is walking my down .

Should there be a son mother dance? I have tried looking for ideas and I am not having much luck lol. I may be looking way to into it.

A son mother dance would be super cute.

And don't get me wrong, if you decide to skip it and let your FH have his that's totally up to you. Just wanted you to be aware.

I'm sorry for your loss. Do whatever feels comfortable for you.

I was in a wedding a few years ago where the bride danced with her mother. She was closer with her mom because her dad was always in and out her life. It was really cute. They danced to "I hope you dance" by LeeAnn Womack. Maybe this might be an option?

A mother son dance would be adorable!

You can absolutely dance with you son, that would be adorable! As for the FH/mother dance, I thought about the timing of this because I feel like there will be a noticeable gap as I will be unable to dance with my dad. So I decided that we will do our first dance right after our grand entrance, but it will not be immediately followed by the mother/son dance. FH and his mother will dance a little later on in the reception. And maybe we will follow it with our Anniversary Dance, or speeches at that point.

My father didn't attend and I thought about cutting out the mother son dance. But it was very important to my mother in law. No one noticed that the second one was cut out. In fact, I would guess most people were relieved so they could go eat lol

You can skip it. You can also do a mother-daughter dance!

My father is invited as a guest but that is it. He has never been around so my uncle will walk me down the aisle. After thinking about the dances, I have decided just not to do a dance with anyone (except FH), but he will still dance with FMIL

My father passed before the big day ( I got legally married early in hospital room a few days before) my brothers were not into dancing but did walk me up the aisle. His mother did not wat to dance with him.. We ended up skipping parent dances along with wedding party dance.

I never had a relationship with my father, so I never intended on having a father/daughter dance.

I would suggest having the dance with your son. Since he walking you down the aisle and is the other "man" in your life, it would be perfect. If FH wants to have his dance with his mom, beautiful. There is no rules to the dances, make the moment as special as you both want.

My son is also walking me down the aisle and we are doing a mother/son dance. My dad will not be at my wedding, he can't. My FH's mother won't be there as well so he won't have a mother/son dance. I asked him if he wanted an alternative and he said no.

My mom is walking me down the aisle and I'm asking my grandpa over Christmas if he'll do the dance with me. I probably wouldn't have asked me dad to do either, even if he were still alive. Loved him, but he wasn't around enough to do these things with me.

I'd say decide if YOU want to do dance, first of all. If so, I'd say mom or son, depending on whoever it feels right with. But if you don't want to dance, no biggie, just keep the mother/son dance. Some people might notice, some might not, and no one will comment on it.

As with all these traditions, they are intended to help you celebrate with those closest to you--but if they don't work, drop them. The mother-son dance is important to your FI, so keep it. The father-daughter dance obviously doesn't work for you. So if you want a special dance, you could do it with your mother or your son, you could do it. But if you don't, don't force the issue just so you'll have a dance to balance the groom's. No one will ask why the father-daughter dance is missing, particularly since you don't actually have a father.

Thank you all for your input. I feel better about it and now know that no matter if I dance or not that it probably won't be an issue or pointed out.

I appreciate all the advice and suggestions. Thank you