Father/Daughter dance

I say do whatever you want to do...your comfort in my opinion is way more important than a tradition.

I will not be having a father/daughter dance at my wedding due to my father being estranged. But do what makes you happy!

I have seen some people to the father/daughter, mother/son dances together, then a little bit into the song they invite everyone else to dance along. It's a good way to get everyone participating!

Jess, why not do a father/daughter dance and a mother/son dance at the same time with your honey and his mom. That way you aren't by yourself. I totally know what you mean though I hate being the center of attention and I don't dance much so having everyone watch is giving me butterflies too.

I'm probably not doing any traditional father/daughter dance. I think it would make my FW feel bad. Her dad won't be coming to our wedding(or any of her family for that matter), so if the DJ announces that I'll be having a dance with my dad, she'll be feeling very left out because this is a time when she should be dancing with her dad as well. Oh, I might dance with him... just not announce it or anything. I don't want to do anything that is going to make her feel bad on such a wonderful day. I may even ask my dad if he'll ask her to dance (if he doesn't do it on his own)

Do whatever makes you feel more comfortable. Don't let Momzilla bully you.

If this is important to your dad, then I would deal with 2 min of attention to give him what he has been waiting for all your life.

It's not my dad, he actually doesn't care if dance alone or not...it's all mom

Jess, it's YOUR day not your Moms. I KNOW that's easier said than done cuz I'm here and you're THERE DEALING with it...lol

Look, I've been doing this a very long time, and it's accepted either way. Tell Mom that's from a 20 year veteran of the Wedding Industry. My OLDEST daughter and I have a funny relationship where we might not be ABLE to dance for 3 minutes w/out breaking up laughing...or breaking into a break dance routine....while my youngest I'll probably cry...

Point is, it's based on you and what you want. It IS hard to do that w/ your family member for the length of the song, and it's perfectly acceptable to START w/ you and Dad...let the song go about 30-45 seconds, and THEN your DJ says, "At this time Jess and her Father would like to invite the rest of you to join them for this dance.".

If Dad is doing a toast, maybe do this dance LAST, and have the DJ walk a cordless mic out to the dance floor after the dance with a captive audience.

If you've hired your dj yet, and you need one capable of choreographing all this, we DO travel.

tjk

You can do it any way you want it! It doesn't matter if everybody is on the floor with you, or if you are dancing just the two of you. Is what counts is that you get to dance with your dad at your wedding, and that will be the memory you will create.

I was just in a wedding this past weekend and half way through the song they invited all other fathers/daughters onto the dance floor for the rest of the song.

You could dance the first verse and chorus alone (momzilla gets her way) and have the DJ tell other guests to join in for the rest of the dance (you get your way). Just a suggestion...