Father/daughter dance (father passed away)

No. My dad passed away in 2010 and we had the father daughter dance song picked way back in 2008. Everyone will know that those men are standing in and represent your father. You might want to prepare yourself for the dance. I was listening to a CD and forgot the song was on it, I couldn't help but cry. The last thing you want to do is stop the whole thing and break down crying in front of everyone. It has taken me 4 years to not bawl like a baby. Now my eyes just get watery. You've only had 5 months to recover from the loss. At first I thought I had to honor my dad at my wedding by doing certain things or decorations. I recently discovered I don't. I am not marrying my FH to honor my father. What we lack is the presence of the person. I am looking for little ways to make the room remind me of him without just sticking his picture everywhere.

I am contemplating this area of planning too. My condolences Future Mrs. Kristin Heath, losing a parent is different than other loved ones who we lose. I lost to my dad 2 yrs ago he was young, 64. At times planning has been sad because of his loss and absence. He used to give me every piece of advice I needed under the sun, and I have often wish I could look to him to ask him things even about marriage or the wedding. So, I am torn about how to "honor" or if I should even openly honor my father at my wedding. I like what Precious said. We aren't there to honor them we are there to marry our FH. Also, I have questioned myself: Do I want to make any part of this day sad? No way! I really like what Precious said that we can honor them but it doesn't have to blatant and everywhere. Hows this? My dad was a musician and he made cds of him singing with instruments. I considered using one of his cds and asking the dj if they could play it, but I am on the fence about it because it is so sad to hear his voice when he isn't going to be there!!!! Do I want to make his family (my guests) and myself so sad on that day? Its a tough one ... I think I am doing what Precious said - subtle ways of honoring dad.

I want to add I kind of got away with what you wrote but I am also considering having his brother (my uncle and godfather) step in in some way ... ? Decisions too many decisions. The only decisions I want to make when this is over is whether or not to have my margarita salted or no salt.

Ha thank you Rhonda. I did the same thing. I didn't mention much about the dance. I don't have any uncles or brothers who could step in. I didn't think I would have a dance at all, but then I saw a discussion about mother daughter dances. I'll probably have a mother daughter dance if my mom is up for it.

My dad passed away a few years back, and I'm starting the father/daughter song with my Uncle (also my godfather). All of the important men in my life (brother, uncles, cousins) will be cutting in throughout the song to share in it. Just have to pick the right song!