Father/daughter Dance Dilemma

You've got quite a lot of time to make this decision, if I'm reading your profile right.

A lot of things could change - your relationship with your dad, your FH's feelings about the dance, and so on.

I would let this one play out for a bit, and not rush a decision. You don't have to do a dance if you don't want to, but you've got nearly 2 years. This is a decision to work out when you're doing song lists nearer to the wedding.

My dad and I don't have a BAD relationship, we're just not close. I'm not super close to anyone in my family though (I go weeks without talking to them). Like you, I think feelings would be hurt so I'm going to bite the bullet and do a shortened version of a song. Not sure what song because they all seem super emotional and mushy but when I figure that out, I'll let ya know. It's a minute and a half of your life. They brought you into this world. In my opinion, it would be a nice gesture on your end

I would need to know about the heartache he has put the family through? Are we talking abuse, or just demanding standards?

I think it would look a bit odd if your husband has a dance with his mother and you don't have one with your father. I understand your reservations though. I would caution, you can't go back and do something you didn't do. You may look back one day and wish you did do the dance with your Dad after the fact. I think it's the right thing to do, but it is your day and you should do what you want. What if you do something more fun and upbeat, so it's not awkward and emotional? Maybe do a shorter version of a fun song? That way you're still doing the dance but it's not too weird. It's your day and totally up to you though, do whatever makes you comfortable!

I totally understand where you're coming from. My dad is the first person I go to for advice on just about everything. But neither one of us ever had that deep emotional connection. He was really against the wedding (because he thinks they're a waste of money) so I wasn't even really sure he wanted to be apart of it. While I did want those special moments with my dad I wasn't sure they'd actually happen. We got to talking about things the other day though and somehow it came up that he just assumed he'd be walking down the aisle. And while I was okay with that since I want him to, I was completely shocked. After that I assumed he'd probably want to do the dance too. So I'm going to try and find something a little more upbeat. When the song "Unwritten" came out, he told me to keep that in mind about my life. So I'm thinking about doing that.