Father/Daughter and Mother/Son Dance

It is common but it is your wedding. Do what you want.

We're thinking of having the dj cut our song short so we aren't stared at for 5 awkward minutes. It can be done. I don't think I've personally seen Mother/Son but if the song is fitting you could definitely all do it at once

What Future said... DJs can shorten your songs for you if you don't want the full song. We're doing this for our first dance since the original is 6 min long and that's a little aggressive

We are doing ours at the same time. That way it's just one song

You can do them separate, together or have them join in at halfway through your father daughter dance. Also consider shortening the song length.

FH doesn't want to do a mother/son dance (complicated relationship). We've decided if she really wants to do it, we will do it at the same time as the father/daughter dance. So I don't think it's weird!

Thanks everyone! I wasn't sure if NOT having a mother/son dance would be inconsiderate, but it sounds like they aren't that common. Thanks!

I have seen mother/son as often as father/daughter. You can do them at separate times, at the same time, not at all...

I don't think this is one of the wedding traditions that guests would be even remotely concerned about.

The father daughter ones always gets me tearing! Never notice the mother son dances lol

We are currently planning to do the father/daughter and mother/son at the same time. I don't think my dad will have a problem with that but I guess we will see what his mom says. Either way, I don't see it being an entire song.

I've always seen them done separately, but yes, you could get creative in how you did it (both at the same time to the same song or have the DJ shorten the two separate songs, etc).

Also, if your FH and his mom decide they would rather not do the mother-son dance, that's also fine. My dad and I are doing the father-daughter dance, but FH and his mom decided they really don't want to do the mother-son dance. It didn't even phase our DJ when I emailed him last night to tell him about their decision.

We aren't having a mother/son dance because FH's mom died a few years ago. He has a stepmom that's been in his life forever, but there are a lot of complicated feelings there, so she won't be subbing in. I'm dancing with my dad though. The song I picked is like 3.5 minutes, but I'm asking the DJ to cut it closer to two. My dad is super stoic, but he gets really emotional at major things like this, so I want to keep it short! If he cries, I will!

We did both, but his song was cut down. I couldn't cut mine, my dad likes to show off his fancy dance moves. Bottom line, you do you. Whatever makes you happy

I wanted to skip it (honestly I find all the dances terribly boring and awkward) but my MIL has her heart set on it so we are doing them at the same time and cutting the song down to a minute and half or so.

Our DJ also offered to edit the song to be shorter, but my FH and his mom ultimately decided not to do it. They both feel awkward being on display and there is no need to feel uncomfortable at your own wedding just for the sake of tradition! One less dance means more time to party at your reception