Father Walking Me Down the Aisle

Why not just ask him?

Why don't you just ask him? This day and age brides walk down alone or have their mother's escort them or sometimes the couple walks down together or a close relative will escort the bride. There is no "job" for your father. From what you stated, it sounds like he WOULD walk you down the aisle, he would just like the curtosy of you asking and not assuming.

My father is a habitual attention seeker. I don't feel its necessary, I feel that it is his job.

Just ask. Maybe it will make him feel honored and special. It's not his job.

It's not his job. You should ask him if you want him to walk you down he aisle. He just wants the curtesy of being asked. When I was in high school it was assumed that my boyfriend would take me to prom but I still wanted to be asked. Same thing here.

It's not a given, in my family and social circle. The bride usually walks with both her parents, or the one or two people who have been the most important in her life. It's not only to honor a male relative.

If either of my parents couldn't have done it I would have asked my grandmother to join us (1st choice), or my sister (maid of honor).

Ugh. My dad is the same way. He acts like we don't invite him to Christmas (if he's not asked) even though it's been at the same place and time for over 40 years now. It's with his family and it's obviously an open invite for him and we expect him to come. The real reason he doesn't come is because my mom comes too (they were married for 30+ years and had two kids together. Her parents are dead), so it's really that he doesn't want to see her. They've been divorced since 2004.

For this reason (along with other absences he's had in my life), he and my mother are walking me down the aisle. I didn't ask him. But when people ask me my plan, that's what I tell them, so he knows that way.

Ok, NOW I've heard everything. Yeah, I'm with Dad on this one. I think it falls into the "common courtesy" category. Why is it just coming up now?

The only people who have "jobs" on your wedding day are you, your FS and the vendors you've paid to be there. If you truly want him to walk you down the aisle, why is asking him too much to ask? My dad assumed that he was going to, but your dad may not see it as a job but as an honor.

Wut?

Well if you don't ask him, then you're walking alone.

If you don't want to walk alone, then ask him.

This post is ridiculous.

I am my dads only daughter out of five children. I felt it was his job. However, I asked him in a special way by playing our song from my Quinceanera because these are the only two times we will have our father-daughter dances, which are special to us since there's only one of me.

I'd say to ask him, in a special way. It's out of respect, not an obligation. I knew my dad would walk me down the aisle, but I knew he'd be hurt if I hadn't asked too.

I think you're both being stubborn, honesty, waiting for the other person to blink...

it's an honor, not a job. If you want him to do it you need to ask.

Yeahhhh... this is a crock. If you know he's that way, either suck it up, and ask him... or walk alone.

Apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Maybe in his eyes he thinks it is a given that the daughter asks the father to walk her down the aisle...

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There's obviously some relationship dynamic going on between you and your father that WW isn't aware of and/or you didn't give us the background to. Because if my dad had said that me, my next reply literally would have been, "okay. Hey Dad, will you walk me down the aisle?"

If you don't want to ask your dad because this is the last straw of whatever other behaviors he's exhibited towards you over your relationship, then fine - you're picking this as your line in the sand. But accept the consequence - if you don't ask, you will walk alone.

You all have given me a lot to think about. I have to make a decision soon. Thanks

Sometimes it's not worth the drama. Sounds like you guys are both stubborn. Just ask him to solve the issue.

Why didn't you ask him?! You can get him a tie patch or something for him to wear too

I don't even under this post. If you want him to walk you down, just ask him. Otherwise you are walking alone. There is nothing wrong with asking. It's not his job to automatically walk you down the aisle. SMDH.