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Father Vs. Step-Father who will walk me down the aisle?

Diandrea, on December 12, 2011 at 12:50 PM Posted in Planning 0 11

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Everything with my planning process is going great however I have hit one major lump in the road! It is very commom to have blended families and I come from one! My parents divorced when I was young and my mom re-married when I was young as well. My BIOLOGICAL FATHER was not present as much as I would have liked him to be but lucky for me I had my step-father who proved himself to be an amazing husband to my mother and a even bettwe father to myself and my two older brothers. He took care us and treated us as if we where his own children and I hate to say it but I have a closer relationship with him than I do my BIO- father. However, me and my real father have been rebuilding our relationship over the past few years and have became close as well.It would break both of their hearts not to walk me down the aisle and I simply do not want to choose between the two! PLEASE HELP! How can I have both of them EQUALLY apart of my wedding??? Anyone with a similar issue? Who would you choose?

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Latest activity by Nafeesah, on December 14, 2011 at 12:19 PM

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Brandi · on December 12, 2011 at 12:58 PM
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What about having them both walk you down or have 1 walk you have way and the other walk you the rest of the way.
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Reina · on December 12, 2011 at 1:00 PM
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Yeah I have seen that. Have your stepfather walk you in the beginning and have your father walk you the rest of the way
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Nancy Taussig · on December 12, 2011 at 1:40 PM
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Since your biodad was there in the beginning -- have him walk you for the first part of the aisle, then have stepdad escort you the rest of the way.
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Christine · on December 12, 2011 at 3:36 PM
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I think you should have them both walk you the whole way. It would make things simpler.
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Cydney J (Cydney M) · on December 12, 2011 at 3:44 PM
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I had a very similar story...the only difference was that my father was in my life ... though I still believe I have a stronger relationship with my step-father than I do with my father. However, my step-father had 3 children prior to remarrying my mom...2 of which were daughters...so he had his moments to walk them down the aisle...plus, I really wanted my mom (who has been my rock in my life) to also walk me down the aisle...so I couldn't just have my father, step-father AND mom walk me down...there just wasn't enough room.
What I ended up doing was having my mom and dad walk me down the aisle and then when we reached the alter, and everyone sat down...my step-father stayed standing and stepped up to the alter with us and when asked who gives this woman away? All three said "We Do" It meant so much to me to have all three of them standing there and giving me away.
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Diandrea · on December 12, 2011 at 4:09 PM
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These are all such great ideas! Thanks Ladies!
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Melanie · on December 14, 2011 at 10:39 AM
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Or have them both walk you down when you walk in so the both of them can say that they are giving you away...
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Joanne · on December 14, 2011 at 10:42 AM
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I had a similar situation but I chose my step father. If you cant choose then I would suggest both of them walking you at the same time.
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Ed Spencer · on December 14, 2011 at 11:29 AM
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Talk with each of them. See how THEY feel about it. It is important to them?

It's not an easy choice - but talk with them.

I'm reminded of the story of King Soloman, the two women, and the baby when questions like this come up.

All great recommendations so far....

Another possibility, have one walk you down the aisle, and dance with the other.

But something else to keep in mind - if step-dad is paying for the wedding and not bio-dad - or vice versa, it's something to think about.

I feel your pain though... decisions regarding family are rarely easy.
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Nafeesah · on December 14, 2011 at 12:19 PM
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My older brother is walking me down because my daddy passed away in 2002, I am pretty close with my step-father but not enough to have him to walk me down. It sounds like you are real close with you step-father but if you don't want to put anyone down or out just ask one of your brothers.
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