Savvy October 2020

Father of the groom attire

Bridetobe, on June 17, 2020 at 1:44 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 7
So my fiance and groomsmen are going to be wearing burgundy suits, i was going to put ushers and fathers in dark grey suits. But when i mentioned to my fiance he was kinda taken back like his dad would not be wearing a suit. He thought he would be wearing jeans with cowboy boots, button up shirt and cowboy hat. However my dad is going to be wearing a suit. What do i do?!


Latest activity by Sarah, on June 17, 2020 at 6:07 PM
  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    This is a conversation with your FH, but general rules are, the fathers should at least match the level of formality of the groomsmen. That means if the groomsmen are wearing tuxes, the fathers should wear tuxes as well. ... He can also choose attire in the same color that features a different cut or accenting than the bridal party.

    It's a should or must factor. Only you know your future in-laws, maybe he's just not a suit person

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think i'd want to force them to wear something they don't want to but you can try to make suggestions like how about a vest over the button up shirt or a suit jacket at least

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  • Bridetobe
    Savvy October 2020
    Bridetobe ·
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    Yes! I can definitely try that. Thank you!
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  • Kelsi
    Expert June 2020
    Kelsi ·
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    I agree with Melle. You might also want to say something about how your dad is wearing a full suit, but you're open to hearing options for your future father in law in order to make sure everyone is comfortable. In the end, I would say them being comfortable would be more important because you don't want a look of discomfort on his face throughout pictures. If it's not who he is, it's going to make him uncomfortable. Best of luck! Smiley heart

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  • Samantha
    Expert October 2021
    Samantha ·
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    Adults dress themselves. Unfortunately, regardless of the esthetics if he wants to wear jeans and cowboy boots that's his prerogative.
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  • L
    Savvy September 2021
    Ladyish ·
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    Suggest that he can wear his boots and hats, along with the suit and he can change after the pictures?

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  • S
    Dedicated September 2021
    Sarah ·
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    You do what you and your FH are comfortable with, perhaps you can have a compromise as mentioned above - the hat and boots with a suit jacket or maybe something else - a funky belt buckle maybe? Have you talked to your FH about how you feel? My FH and groomsmen will be in tuxes and my Dad and mother's partner will be in navy suits. It is what everyone has and can afford, and it doesn't really matter to me, as long as everyone is there and comfortable. Good luck and have a wonderful day!

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