Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Jables
Dedicated May 2019

Father of the Bride/father of the Groom toast? ?

Jables, on February 13, 2018 at 9:51 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
My fiancé and I are paying for the majority of our wedding but both sets of parents are contributing a generous but equal amount to our funds. Should we ask both the fathers if they wish to do a wedding reception toast?

At my older sisters wedding, my father gave a toast and it was very important to him. But they also contributed the majority of the funds for her wedding. My fiancé and I are at a different stage in our careers and also wanted to maintain control over planning and guest list so while both sets of parents want to contribute, we will be covering most of the cost.

8 Comments

Latest activity by Joyce, on February 15, 2018 at 10:19 PM
  • Megan
    Expert June 2018
    Megan ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    IMO, they should be given the opportunity to toast you regardless of financial contribution. It’s a great opportunity for them to wish you well in your future together.
    • Reply
  • Nikki
    Super May 2018
    Nikki ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We’re paying for everything but the bar, which my parents have generously offered to cover. Both dads will be given the opportunity to say something if they wish since we aren’t having a rehearsal dinner
    • Reply
  • hazelgrace
    Just Said Yes January 2018
    hazelgrace ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We gave all parents the opportunity to make a short toast.
    • Reply
  • Jables
    Dedicated May 2019
    Jables ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Thank you.... I'll make sure to give all parents a chance to speak/give a toast!!
    • Reply
  • Ashley
    VIP May 2018
    Ashley ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I don’t think money should do anything with the toasts. I think both should be able to!
    • Reply
  • Mrs. P
    Devoted May 2018
    Mrs. P ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We’re giving both dads the opportunity to toast even though my dad is paying for everything.
    • Reply
  • C
    Dedicated November 2018
    Cristen ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    My FIL is toasting at the rehearsal, and my father is toasting at the wedding. I didn't have any consideration about who was paying for what!

    • Reply
  • J
    Beginner July 2018
    Joyce ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Why does financial contribution dictate whether they do a speach or not?

    If they want to do a speach, its because the love you and want to tell the world so.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Explore how we embrace diversity

Groups

WeddingWire article topics