Neeva
Expert April 2020

Father of the bride suit

Neeva, on November 22, 2019 at 7:15 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 10
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I am pretty frustrated with my dad and just wanted to see what y'all thought.

When we went to Men's Wearhouse to decide on the suit for the guys, I went with my future in laws and fiance. We picked something and added groom, groomsmen and father of the groom. I assumed my dad would want to be involved so I went ahead and added him too (he was out of the country so I couldn't ask him, my mom said he would want a matching suit too).

Fast forward to this week when we need fittings done and my dad is saying for 200 bucks he would rather buy his own suit. He also says he does not look good in a black suit and so will buy a blue one. He wants me to call and take his name off the list.

I told him I wish he would wear what everyone else because it will look weird in photos. If it was both dads wearing different suits it would be one thing but the groom's dad is still going to wear the suit we decided on (his has a tie instead of a bowtie to distinguish him from groom/groomsmen.

Will our pictures look insane!? One guy in a blue suit while everyone else is in black??

I am hoping it won't and don't really want to fight with my dad.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I don’t think it would look weird at all. Your dad wouldn’t be in pictures with groomsmen anyways. I would let him wear what he wants.
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  • M
    Dedicated October 2021
    Megan ·
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    Agreed with Kelly--I've never seen either of the dads match each other or the groomsmen. They're always just wearing whatever they wanted. It doesn't look weird--I'm all for the parents wearing what they feel most comfortable in.

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  • Neeva
    Expert April 2020
    Neeva ·
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    Thanks girls!!

    I am definitely picking my battles and will let this one go Smiley smile

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  • Amber
    Rockstar February 2020
    Amber Online ·
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    I agree with Kelly. I don’t think the father of the bride often matches the groomsmen anyways, at least not intentionally. FH will be in a light grey suit, our groomsmen will be in navy suits, and my dad is wearing his black suit because that’s what he already has.
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  • Yoice
    Rockstar March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    For the most part you don’t take pictures all together like the bridal party and families. Your future father in law having a black suit is very easy since is classic and he really doesn’t match the guys if he has a tie instead of a bow tie. I personally like everyone matching but if your dad wants something different then I think is fine. Let him pick what he wants and whatever he thinks he looks good on.
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    Most dads don’t wear the same thing anyway so let him wear what he wants.
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  • Jess
    Expert October 2019
    Jess ·
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    We had my parents match the bridal party because they will stand with each other for pics especially if there is family in the wedding party and you want to do family pics. i would ask him to match the color scheme, that would personally bother me if it didn’t match lol
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  • Jennifer
    VIP September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I think it’s okay. He is walking you down the aisle so he can be in a different suit.


    If it is really a big deal, maybe talk to him. Be honest that you want to have everyone look the same.... he might surprise you!
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  • Neeva
    Expert April 2020
    Neeva ·
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    Yeah I think my main concern is that he's the only one wearing a blue suit. He said he would wear a blush tie? We will see how it all goes!

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I think them not matching will be okay! Most people probably won't notice it too much Smiley smile

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