Father of groom and bride attire

The fathers should decide their own attire. It is not our place to tell them how to dress. They have already expressed discomfort at being asked to dress less formally than the wedding party. They are right.

If the groom and groomsmen are wearing suits, it is appropriate for the fathers to also wear a suit. The choice of suit and color is theirs. Mens suits are almost invariably in neutral colors, so it really doesn't matter.

Are there significant others involved? My fiance has opted for dark gray suits and my father refuses to wear black so he is wearing a lighter gray. His tie is going to be a print that has both a cream-like color and whatever color my mother's dress ends up being so he matches both of us. (My dress a champagne/blush sort of color). Maybe consider a patterned tie if you want them to incorporate the wedding colors.

Our dads are wearing what they want, and we left it up to them whether they wanted to coordinate with the wedding party or not (girls in light pink, guys in light gray tuxes). My dad decided he is going to rent a tux in a different color from the guys, possibly white jacket and black pants, and FH's dad is buying a new suit. I don't know what color.

I just had my dad pick out what tie he wants and this weekend we’re shopping to get what he wants to wear. I didn’t really care what he wears I just want him to be happy and comfortable!

This is what we did

We just did slight variations you see below. We wanted to keep it subtly different. The father is practically the same as the groom but with silk piping. Can you do something similar to groom and groomsmen with just a different tie? It sounds like they want to be dressed up as well. Or you could offer them to do their own thing if you want. We aren't giving our fathers the choice. We let them choose between gray and black.

Left to right: Groom, Groomsmen, Fathers

Tuxedos