Father of bride/groom

They are grown adults who can choose their own clothes. They have been doing so since before you were born. There are websites with guidelines for mens' formal wear.

With my limited understanding of men's wedding fashion-- you give the fathers a boutonniere to have them stand out. the color of the accessories and attire is just extra and may be unnecessary. I would venture to say your overthinking it.

Thanks muriel, at 39, I'm well aware that they know how to dress... since you seemed to have missed the purpose of my question, I'll ignore your comment......

Jenna, Yeah we have the flowers for them, just wanted to give a little extra stand out.. probably am over thinking it.

Between bouts, spotlight dances, and toasts, I really doubt anyone will be wondering where your fathers are (unless you are having a truly massive guest list)

It's a pretty big list.

@Joe- I didn't miss the purpose at all. It is not the place of the groom to tell the fathers how to dress, any more than it is anyone else's place to tell the mothers how to dress.

I'm not telling them how to dress, I personally just want them to stand out a little more. We are all wearing neck ties, should they? Or should I have bow ties for them.

I don't know about everybody else, but I'm going to have to tell my dad how to dress, or he'll come in jeans and cowboy hat... @Joe - The men in the wedding party don't have to match, or everybody can match. Unless your wedding is black tie, no one else will likely wear a tux, automatically making the BP guys stand out. Easy! Have fun!! It's so nice to see a groom pipe up with questions.

Our dads are renting the same suits as the GM. Dads will have different ties and pocket squares. And I'm pretty sure everyone will know which of the matching guys are the dads.

(Spoiler- it'll be the older two)

Lol! Yeah the old folks. Ok, the different ties is more what I was thinking.. we all have the same suits.. thanks all for the responses.

I've been in a wedding where all the men in the BP wore the same suits but different shades of gray, the GM were lighter than the FOB/FOG and groom was in a medium shade. If that's something that would work for your fathers it can look really nice without overthinking accessories

I think you let dads wear what they want.

My dad is matching the groom (except with a tie instead of a bow tie) but that's because he's actually in the wedding, handing me off. We gave the option to the groom's Dad, but he's just wearing his own suit. They'll both have boutineeres. Since mine is giving me away and his dad is walking during the seating of the parents I think they'll stand out enough. Plus we're also doing the daddy/daughter dance so there are little ways to make it known

I talked with my FFIL about this to see what his preference was; to rent a tux with the rest of the groomsmen or to wear a suit of his own. He chose to wear his own. I just want him to be comfortable.

Our dads will be wearing grey suits while all the other guys are wearing black. So just a slight change but enough to make them stand out. Main reason for doing this is both our dads already have dark grey suits so it was just easier than having to rent a new one, but still a plus that they stand out a little!

My H will wear the same as the GM's. I don't think they need to stand out anymore than having a bout. Will you have both sets of parents announced or introduced along with the WP?

Our dads wore tuxes that matched the groomsmen, but with regular ties that matched our moms' dress colors. Groomsmen wore bow ties. Between the tux and the boutonnieres (and the fact that my dad cried the whole day), everyone knew who our parents were!

Will other guests be wearing tuxes? Often tuxes and bouts are enough for people to stand out IMO.

My FH and the GM are wearing navy tuxes with wine colored ties, however the FH will be wearing a deeper shade of wine with a thin striped pattern. FFIL and my father wanted to wear tuxes with the guys, so they have the option to pick up the same tux selection as the GM. It's their choice, but i also think it will look nice!