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Father of bride backs out of going to wedding

Calli, on July 5, 2019 at 5:06 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3

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So my dad called me today saying that his work is changing and because of this he won’t be able to come to the wedding in 70 days. I haven’t seen my dad in 12 years and we’ve only just started reconnecting in the last couple of years. He seems genuinely upset that he won’t be coming, but I can’t help but think that if he wanted to come that badly that he would figure it out in the 70 days with work. I’m absolutely heartbroken as I had asked him to have the father daughter dance with me.

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Latest activity by Sinéad, on July 8, 2019 at 7:28 AM

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Caytlyn · on July 5, 2019 at 5:09 PM
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I can understand why you're upset and those feelings are totally valid. This isn't a great time for him to back out of a commitment since you're still working on your relationship. That being said, "he could figure it out" isn't really a great way of thinking. Some people have jobs where switching shifts or not showing up isn't an option, not everyone has the luxury of just "figuring it out." I would let yourself feel the way you feel and work through it, but I would try not to dwell on it for too long since it doesn't seem like something that can be changed.
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D · on July 6, 2019 at 11:52 PM
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I'm sorry this is happening. If he thought he could make it work he probably would. I know it's disappointing. Unfortunately sometimes when there are changes in a job situation people HAVE TO do whatever they can to keep their position. At least he is being upfront and telling you now instead of a week before the wedding. Maybe he will manage to find a way to be there on your day. A lot can happen in 2+ months.
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Sinéad · on July 8, 2019 at 7:28 AM
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Hey Calli! I’m sorry that this is happening. It’s totally understandable to be upset about this.
As the pps mentioned, your father's change in work is coming at a very inopportune moment but I’m sure he genuinely does want to attend your wedding and is upset that this has happened also. Perhaps you could discuss with him any options in work that would allow him to attend, such as swapping shifts or taking a day (or even an afternoon) off from work. You should be prepared for this not to be an option though because I’m sure he has thought of that already if it were possible.
You shouldn’t let this be a damper on your wedding day!
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