Sara P.
VIP October 2018

Father daughter songs for strained relationship

Sara P., on July 21, 2018 at 11:05 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 20
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I'm still tossing around the options for whether or not to dance with my Dad at my reception. I'm pretty sure he's coming bc he got fitted for a tux but we have a strained relationship and we don't really talk. If I do decide to dance with him though, I need ideas for songs that aren't too lovey dovey, mushy or sentimental.

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  • lyfe_girl
    Dedicated June 2019
    lyfe_girl ·
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    Girl, same. No suggestions, but I’m here to follow and show support
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  • Sara P.
    VIP October 2018
    Sara P. ·
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    Sorry your dad sucks too. How to deal with him related to the wedding has been the biggest stressor for me in all of this planning. Good luck to you!
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  • J
    Just Said Yes July 2023
    Jewel ·
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    Three times a lady- The Commodores
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  • Hunter
    Dedicated May 2020
    Hunter ·
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    I talk to my dad, but we've never really had a relationship, so we aren't having a father daughter dance

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  • T
    Just Said Yes September 2018
    Taylor ·
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    Same situation with my dad unfortunately. But I’ve picked “My Wish” by Rascal Flatts to be our song!
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  • C
    Master July 2018
    Cuoghi ·
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    No song suggestion but I'd think to yourself, in 15 years or of ge was to suddenly get sick or worse die, would you be sad you didnt dance with him?
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  • Sara P.
    VIP October 2018
    Sara P. ·
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    I have thought about that and it's quite possible which is another reason I'm considering it. We used to be close. He kinda has backed away from a lot of the family, including me. I wish it were different but I just feel awkward.
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  • J
    Savvy June 2019
    Jessica ·
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    Im in the same boat with my dad. We good, but not great. Leaning towards dancing to Brown eyed girl. Just a cute little jam session.
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  • C
    Just Said Yes June 2018
    Casey ·
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    My mom and I are closer than my dad and I due to a strained relationship. I danced with my mom to Carrie Underwood's "Momma's Song"
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  • M
    Super October 2018
    Michelle ·
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    Daughters by John Mayer
    Somewhere Over the Rainbow
    Forever Young by Rod stewart
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  • ap2al
    VIP October 2018
    ap2al ·
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    In the same boat! No song suggestions (currently working on that this weekend), but I understand completely where you’re coming from! I’ll post some if I find some Smiley smile
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  • M
    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Michelle ·
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    Not really in the same boat, my dad's Relationship isn't strained but also not very emotional. I'm planing on skipping the father daughter dance and having all the parents (both mine and my significant others parents are divorced and remarried so 8 parents) square dance together. I think it is a fun way to symbolize the joining of our families without being mushy about it. However we aren't sure about which song to pick for that.
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  • Sara P.
    VIP October 2018
    Sara P. ·
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    I thought about this one but... My eyes are blue! 😂
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  • Mrscolón
    Super September 2019
    Mrscolón ·
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    I am in the same boat. No suggestions unfortunately. I have looked over and over again but no luck. I will be dancing with both my step dad (who has been around since I was 2 and is truly my dad), as well as my father. Definitely going to be difficult finding a song for both.

    Good luck to you!

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  • OrangeCrush
    Super October 2017
    OrangeCrush ·
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    What a Wonderful world by Louie Armstrong? Your DJ could cut it short too.
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  • A
    Devoted July 2019
    Ally ·
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    Im doing the song by the drifters called when my little girl is smiling. It's more upbeat and not too mushy. My dad is an awkward individual lol
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  • Summer
    Super August 2018
    Summer ·
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    This is a good one.

    I was also thinking Frank "The Way You Look Tonight" - kind of light and fun and focuses more on that night and the future instead of the past, unless you're uncomfortable with the line about love.

    Or something upbeat and fun so it won't be so mushy. Good luck!


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    Just Said Yes August 2021
    Shelby ·
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    I’m doing a dance with my mom to “momma’s song” for that same reason. My dad has came leaps and bounds from who he was while I was growing up and I want to have a dance with him as well, so I totally understand your struggle to find the right song. I would honestly suggest finding a song that is true to your relationship with your father without throwing him under the bus in front of everyone at the wedding. What I’m doing with my dad is I’m giving him a couple options (haven’t found those options yet) and letting him pick. That way he feels like he has a say and I’m not just picking the most man hating song I can find.
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  • Katharine
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Katharine ·
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    This is cool. Wish my family could be like this. Parents divorced in 2001 everyone is still awful about it. My dad never wants to talk about the upcoming wedding or anything. Don't want to the dance either but hes contributed about 18% of total cost so I feel like I have to

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  • Samantha
    Just Said Yes May 2020
    Samantha ·
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    Is your groom going to be doing a mother/son dance?...because my fiance decided to combine the father daught/mother son dances to speed up the awkwardness and time. You can pick a generic sweet song for both to enjoy, instead of making it just about father daughter lovey mush.

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