Father daughter dance

Hmm. Following. I have a good relationship with my dad, but even still the thought of a father daughter dance seems pretty awkward to me.

I get you girl. I do love my dad but I can't even remember when or if he ever told me he loves me. He had been there for me to watch my games in high school, coach in elementary, help with my homework and build my school projects. He just can't seem to be emotional and mushy with me or obviously my mom. I think I'll do My Life by the Beatles as that actually was a song from our old family videos (burned in a fire and we no longer have it). Google short songs and dad/daughter songs, you'll find something or ask the DJ to fade song out early to make it shorter...

I'm in the same boat. I wasn't going to do a father/daughter dance but FH wants to dance with him mom which puts a lot of pressure on me to do a very awkward father daughter dance. My dad and I have never hugged each other. Thats how unemotionally attached we are. Still was a good dad though. Just not mushy at all, more like a business relationship. So i will be following this post for ideas.

Basically I am on the same boat.. I have been thinking that I wont have that dance.

Glad to see I'm not the only one! My only friend who isn't emotional with her dad did a courthouse wedding, so I couldn't get ideas there.

Maybe you can have a dance with both your parents together. That might help. I can't do that because FH's father passed and it might bring attention to it and it seems a bit inconsiderate. So I'm left with do awkward dance or none at all. And I am leaning towards none.

I'm not doing the father/daughter dance, shoot he's not even walking me down the aisle. He's my stepfather and growing up I never felt that fatherly love from him and as I got older I tried to make peace but with him it was like trying to knock a wall down. My mom and godmother will be walking me down and doing the dance with me.

I have sort of the opposite problem...I'm close with my parents and have always known I'd get walked down the aisle and do a father/daughter dance and even what song it would be. Fiancé's mom passed away more than twenty years ago, though, and he has a stepmom but they've only actually been married a couple of years. I asked if he wanted to do a dance with her or with his aunt who we're very close with and he said no, which is fine -- I don't want to push him into anything. I'm just hoping it won't seem weird to people that my dad and I do a dance but then there's no mother/son dance to speak of.

I have the exact same problem. I've been asking some of my friends for song opinions for the father daughter dance. And honestly, I'd rather not dance with him--but FH is definitely dancing with his mom. I don't want to make my dad feel bad or look bad. :/

We both like Audrey Hepburn, so I was thinking of us maybe dancing to Moon River, from Breakfast at Tiffany's. It's just not father-daughter related at all. But I still don't know if I'll go with that for sure... This is hard!

One of my bridesmaids gave me a list of what she thought were some non-mushy father-daughter song options:

Tom Petty - Wildflowers

Beatles - Here Comes The Sun

Beatles - Blackbird

Frank Sinatra - Fly Me To The Moon

Van Morrison - Brown Eyed Girl

The Temptations - My Girl

Lord Huron - End Of The Earth

Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros - Simplest Love

We're doing My Wish by Rascal Flatts. My dad and I aren't really close either.

I would do the dance and like you said just

Pick a short song. It will pass very quickly and if you didn't do it you may regret not having it

To look back on.

You don't have to do the father-daughter dance if you don't want to, even if your FGs are doing a mother-son dance. I really don't think there would be a lingering expectation for you to do that dance. But as PPs suggested, you could have the DJ fade out. Or do something upbeat and peppy so you aren't awkwardly slow dancing.

Following. No judgement. Maybe dont do one or a short one for your FH sake. My relationship with my dad was the same way....those highschool years we fell apart really bad...it's better now but still distant. He's just not the emotional type.... Walking down the aisle is awkward enough but a father daughter dance....i havent even thought of...he'd probably look at me like I'm crazy!

@DJF thats the song my dad suggested for us! My vote ia for Wildflowers by Tom Petty, and we're still looking. We are very close, and I am actually really excited to have this moment because he isn't walking me down the aisle.

I didn't meet my "father" till I was 17 years old (I'm 23 years old now) and ever since we meet it has been nothing but turmoil. We can barely have a simple conversation without arguing. I decided to let my uncle walk me down the aisle because he took the place of my father and was one of my father figures in my life. My BF's dad, who also was a father figure and really took me in as one of his daughters, will be doing my father daughter dance with me. Sad to say my "father" most likely will not even show up. Hope this helps you!

I love my dad. We have an amazing relationship. But it being my second wedding it just felt weird to have him walk me down again and dance again. There is nothing that says you have to do either of those things.

Thanks everyone! (just catching back up on this thread) Wildflowers sounds like a really great option! I also was browsing the WW list of father-daughter songs and came across ELO's Mr. Blue Sky, which is a nice fun peppy one that would be good. I think it's a good way to balance not regretting it later, probably making him SUPER happy, but not being sappy. I'll probably just do the aisle alone though, since I'm 32 and lived alone for a decade.

ETA: Tina, I'm so sorry, but glad you have other good father figures you can turn to!

I'm in the same boat, kind of. My dad passed away last year. I'm having my uncle (my dads brother), and my brother walk me down the aisle, but have opted out of a dance.

My dad was never affectionate, I can count the number of times we've hugged on my hand. That being said it's going to be awkward for both of us. We both love pink Floyd so we picked 5am by David Gilmore. It's instrumental and only about a minute long.

I was also looking for a non-lovey dovey song and think I'm going with "What a wonderful world" by Louis Armstrong. Lots of people love that song and it's not at all about a relationship but is instead about life and is feel-good. It's 2 minutes 15 seconds.

You could also take everyone by surprise and do a fast dance. That would involve a bit of coordination behind the scenes between you so, while it might feel less awkward to do, you'd have to learn a dance together.